This is a good question we should ask ourselves often: Where do we want to be 10, 15 or 20 years from now in our marriages? Once you have a clear vision in view, the next question is: What choices am I making today that will help me get there 0r prevent me from getting there?
Far too often we react in the heat of the moment instead of choosing carefully our responses to our wives. Most women are more emotional than men, although I am not ashamed to admit I tear up quite easily. But I have learned through the years when Debi is having an emotional challenge not to react to her, but instead calmly lead.
Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
It’s not easy staying calm in the midst of a heated moment, but God has helped me speak softly. I can testify the word of God is true! Many an argument has been diffused when I’ve chosen to speak softly. Loving our wives involves being willing to defer rather than conquer. I don’t have to go after every challenge and prove myself. My task is to represent Christ by the way I treat my wife. Certainly this doesn’t mean peace at all costs – there are times to confront and correct, but that’s another post.
For now, this is the road I’m choosing to follow – how about you?