Intoxicating Love

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I had the privilege of attending a meeting yesterday for the men of our local church.

One session was titled, “The Protection of Intoxicating Love,” and it was so practical I had to take the time to share it with you.  It starts with two excellent quotes – one from the Bible and one by Eugene Peterson from, “The Message.”

“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe.  Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.”              Proverbs 5:18-19

“Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! Lovely as an angel, beautiful as a rose – don’t ever quit taking delight in her body. Never take her love for granted!”

These quotes were followed with 10 practical applications given by one of our pastors, Aron Osbourne.  I pray you will be surprised by how many of these you already practice, and be challenged with the ones you may have never considered.  Guaranteed, a husband who pursues his wife in this way will reap lasting benefit!

  1. Have a regular date night together.
  2. Pursue her emotionally, spiritually and sexually.
  3. Write her notes and/or call her during the day.
  4. Be her biggest encourager.
  5. Express physical affection outside of it leading to sexual intimacy.
  6. Look her in the eyes when you speak to her.
  7. Say, “I love you” when it isn’t expected.
  8. Plan something for her – lots of small things and something really BIG.
  9. Sit on the same side of the table at a restaurant and not just for a better view of the game.
  10. Find ways to refresh her…send her away for an afternoon, an evening or an entire weekend.

I’m grateful to be reminded once again of the importance of fanning the flames of affection for the wife of my youth.

In what ways are you fanning the flames?  What would you add to this list?

This is post #24 in The Ultimate Blog Challenge to post everyday in July.  One week to go!

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10 Responses to Intoxicating Love

  1. Gina Lawson says:

    read to eachother occasionally, be it from a book, a magazine article or poetry, It’s another way of contact from the brain to the heart because it’s something you’ve shared


    • Debi Walter says:

      Gina – We love to read together. It’s good to connect with each other on an intellectual level; not only does it promote deep conversation, but it communicates contentment with each other. At least this is what we have found. Thanks for contributing!
      Tom and Debi


  2. Ria Wallace says:

    Say I’m sorry.


  3. Dale W Cunningham says:

    Romance. A candlelit dinner w/ soft music at the coffee table in the living room; one laptop, a movie, a blanket and the swing on the back deck at night; special looks and winks; making sure she is not “lost in a crowd” but a touch here and there to remind her that I know she’s there; KISSES.


    • Debi Walter says:

      This list is excellent. We especially like “making sure she is not ‘lost in a crowd,’ but a touch here and there to remind her that I know she’s there.” We have a secret signal we give each other whenever we’re in a crowd that says I would rather be alone with you than with all these people. 🙂 Thanks for contributing!
      Tom and Debi


  4. Lisa says:

    My hubby and I have an appreciation practice each night. We take turns sharing why we’re grateful for the other. It could be stuff that we did for each other that day or just general things. It feels so good to do this. It helps to build intimacy and connection. I like the above ideas too. Those definitely work, guys 😉


    • Debi Walter says:

      What a special commitment you’ve made and even more so – have kept! Thanks for this great idea!


  5. torcon1 says:

    Great tips – tweeted!


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