“Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise,
but the companion of fools will suffer harm.”
For as long as I can remember, it has been Tom’s goal in our marriage to pursue relationships with whom we respect and desire to be like. And I can say looking back through the years, we’ve made some amazing friends who are, in my humble opinion, quality, God-fearing couples who not only enjoy each other, but their pursuit of God is riveting. We have been blessed beyond measure, and it is because of Tom’s leadership in this area.
Who are the friends you pursue? And why?
Is it because they’re fun and help you forget your troubles? Or do they challenge you to be better? Certainly those friends who challenge us can be fun as well, but if fun is all you’re getting out of the relationship it may be time to raise the bar, either in this relationship or pursue other couples you admire.
We’ve heard it said, “You’re convictions rise to the highest level of Biblical knowledge you have learned.” If your knowledge isn’t increasing neither will your convictions. And if your convictions aren’t increasing your marriage may be flat-lining. This could be the “harm” of which this verse speaks.
Purpose to spend time together as a couple talking about the friends you have and the friends you would like to get to know. Then, make a concerted effort to go after them for their wisdom and for their friendship. Years from now your marriage will be the better for it, and you most likely will discover some amazing couples have become your friends.
How easy is it for you to make new friends? If it’s hard, how will you overcome it to pursue wise couples in order to glean from their experience? We would love to hear your thoughts.