1. It is the deepest level of intimacy a husband and wife can experience, even more so than sex. There is a connection that occurs when you take the time to pray together about the issues you’re facing in your family, your marriage and your life in general. It’s one of those things that you never know what you’re missing until you start doing it together.
2. It communicates your deepest care for your spouse. Hearing these words from your spouse, Can I pray for you, brings comfort to a hurting or stressful soul. It says, I’m here for you in the good and the bad, and I want to pray for you to our Heavenly Father who is the only One who can help. What an encouragement!
3. It strengthens the triple braided cord–the cord which binds your hearts together as one. The Bible says:
For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.
(Matthew 18:20 ESV)
If we really believe this verse, then praying together literally invites Christ into our home, and He promises to hear our prayer.
4. It allows you to hear what is on each other’s heart in a way mere communication can’t. There is something about praying that removes a layer of the soul. One talks more openly in prayer than in casual conversation. It is usually a desperate cry for help and hope.
5. It humbles you as you acknowledge you have a greater need than you are able to satisfy in your own strength. Pride makes it difficult to pause and pray. The enemy of our soul and our marriage wants nothing more than to keep us from praying, so he whispers in our ear why we don’t need to pray. Or tells us we’re just too tired to do it, so don’t bother.
Not wanting to pray can be an indication of a self-sufficient person. Not making the time to pray can be an indication of an over-extended schedule. Not praying together can be an indication of a lack of understanding about the power and privilege it is to talk to God. Most importantly, not praying together as a husband and wife neglects the privilege you have to approach the Throne of Grace in order to receive help and mercy in your time of need.
God has promised to always hear us when we cry out to Him. When we pray together He goes beyond hearing and promises to be right there with us as we pray! Knowing all of this…why wouldn’t we pray as often as we are able?
So, how is the prayer-life of your marriage these days? Is this an area of strength in your relationship, or are you in need of encouragement to work on this important discipline?
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Thanks Walter for this powerful post. Praying together really helps to build that deep connection that you are talking about. All Christian and God-fearing couples need to do this. Great post!
Thanks, Walter. Your encouragement means a lot to us, and we couldn’t agree with you more on how important praying together as a husband and wife is to the intimacy of a marriage.
Agreed that prayer is essential, powerful and unifying. That said, do not see the need to compare it in any way with sex. They are different. Kind of like a daughter asking her father, “Do you love me more than Mommy?”. To me, the answer is, “I love her as much as I can love my wife and I love you as much as I can love my daughter.”
I understand what you’re saying, and we aren’t saying prayer with our spouse can or should replace sex. What we are saying is that praying together brings a deeper connection even beyond what sex can do on its own. Now when you put the two together–That is the ultimate in experiencing oneness as God ordained from the beginning.
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Great post. Why the twin beds in the photo? The couple sitting on their bed (not beds) would convey the important message that their life together in that bed is not complete without their life together sitting on that bed praying (not that prayer HAS to happen there). To me the photo suggests the unrealistic picture which the 1950’s sitcoms sought to portray (I Love Lucy, The Dick VanDyke Show, Donna Reed) with a married couple in separate beds. (But maybe they’re on vacation and in a hotel room). Anyway, a great post. Just lose the twin beds.
Great observation, Levi. We saw this picture as a hotel room, so didn’t go to the 50’s sitcom idea at all.