On Normal

ConstantI’ve missed normal. It’s been months since we’ve experienced what used to be normal. I think I’m finally realizing our normal has changed for good, and I need to adjust my expectations. <sigh>

But I don’t like it. Everything looks different, except two things: God’s love for me and Tom’s unfailing commitment to demonstrate that love to me in tangible and thoughtful ways.

I love writing, and I love sharing with you what God has placed on my heart concerning marriage. But even this doesn’t feel the same to me. I spend more time staring at my computer screen then actually typing anything worth reading. Honestly, I erase more than I keep. It makes me sad.

Why do I tell you this? 

Simply because God has called all of us to live life right where we are. He wants us to reflect His glory to a world that doesn’t know Him nor care to. When we’re facing unpleasant seasons of life and/or marriage, this is when God shines the brightest, if we’ll let Him.

A good friend recently encouraged me to remember one word through all I’m facing. That word was “constant”. God is my only constant–the only One who will never leave me or forsake me. I may not like what He’s doing at times, but that doesn’t mean He can’t be trusted. Parents often have to do things their children don’t like for their own good or safety. We, in the same way, are called to trust such seasons to the only One who is unchanging. Difficulty reveals idols I may have been clinging to too tightly. I must let go of the old to embrace the new, and find the joy God has stored up for me in the new season.

And God is a jealous God. He won’t let us cling to worthless things. He will faithfully reveal to us how futile it is to cling to sinking ships.

Another friend reminded me through her excellent post on Waiting, how we miss the main point of Isaiah 40:31 that says:

31 But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”

It’s those who patiently “wait upon the Lord” who will renew their strength. Only God knows how long the waiting season will last, but He has promised us that:

“weeping may tarry for the night, but joy comes with the morning.” – Psalm 30:5

The Bible provides great promises that are worth clinging to in uncertain times. Sometimes it takes our spouse reminding us of the Truth, and it’s the Truth that alone can set us free.

What about you? Have you been clinging to sinking ships? What promises will help you remember the Truth?

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
This entry was posted in Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, The Gospel & Marriage and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

6 Responses to On Normal

  1. I am praying for you dear friend. There is so much happening in your heart and life right now; a time of the Lord planting many things in you. The harvest will be rich and beautiful — and will result in words flowing out to others that will encourage, strengthen, empathize and help. I, too, crave “sameness” and am missing normal. Together we will walk into the bright future the Lord has for us, and He’ll be there.


  2. Continuing in prayer for you and Tom.

    For some reason the idea of refining silver in the fire comes to my heart – (Psalm 66:10) I’ve read that when silver is refined, it’s put into a flame. It needs to be watched closely during the process. I’m positive that God is keeping watch during this time – close and attentive. Loving you. Because you’re precious.


  3. Debi – From time to time we have to stop and find the “new normal”. While this is difficult, it is also a chance to make changes beyond what might be forced on us. As long as we are forced to change what is normal, why not take the opportunity to make a few changes we want, or feel God wants us to make?

    Continuing to pray for you and your family.


Leave a Reply to Debi Walter Cancel reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.