50 Daily Kindnesses

Photo: Kindness Is A Daily Think, FB page.

Photo: Kindness Is A Daily Think, FB page.


  1. Pour their coffee in the morning and take it to them before they get out of bed.
  2. Write an encouraging Bible verse on the shower wall.
  3. Pray specifically for your spouse’s day and write a note telling them you did so. Place it where they’ll find it.
  4. Make breakfast using a heart-shaped cookie cutter for the toast or pancakes.
  5. Wash your spouse’s car.
  6. Put gas in their tank when it’s low.
  7. Buy their favorite snack and give it to them when their hungry for something.
  8. Do something on their chore list that they’ve been dreading.
  9. Make their favorite meal for dinner.
  10. Buy or Bake their favorite dessert.
  11. Record a movie you know they’ve been wanting to see.
  12. Organize their clothing drawers or closet.
  13. Do something you know they love for you to do without them mentioning it.
  14. Plan an outing with a few of their friends.
  15. Buy a book they’ve been wanting to read and put it where they’ll find it, like on their bed-side table.
  16. Make an appt. for her to have a manicure/pedicure.
  17. Draw a bath with their favorite music and beverage.
  18. Give an unexpected, romantic kiss.
  19. Buy Starbucks.
  20. Write a note and put it in their Bible.
  21. Let them sleep in.
  22. Men, hold the door open for her.
  23. Ladies, let him.
  24. Bake something for your spouse’s co-workers to enjoy.
  25. Be quick to ask for or extend forgiveness.
  26. Buy flowers for no special reason.
  27. Plant flowers in the yard while they’re away.
  28. Foot massage.
  29. Make a CD of all your favorite romantic songs.
  30. Visit their office right before they get off work. Put a cold drink and favorite snack in their car with a note to enjoy their ride home. Don’t let them see you do this either.
  31. Compliment them both privately and publicly.
  32. Don’t interrupt them. Listen while they speak without thinking what you’re going to say next.
  33. Hold hands.
  34. Sit together in church with your children to the side. This communicates your commitment to each other and to not let the children come between you.
  35. Play with their hair.
  36. Snuggle on the couch.
  37. Dance.
  38. Ask about their day and listen.
  39. Pray together.
  40. Plan for your next time away. Save for it. Talk about it. Dream about it.
  41. Be faithful to do the things you’ve said you’d do.
  42. Go get the car to pick her up when it’s raining.
  43. Carry a handkerchief to wipe her tears.
  44. Anything that is unexpected.
  45. Make your bed everyday. Or do it for the one who normally does it.
  46. Keep the laundry clean.
  47. Find a way to make your spouse laugh.
  48. Initiate sex.
  49. On a cold night, use a blow dryer to warm the sheets for her while she’s washing up.
  50. Say, “Thank You, I appreciate you.”

What would you add to this list? Let’s purpose to show daily acts of kindness to the one with whom we are called to love the most.

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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9 Responses to 50 Daily Kindnesses

  1. #1 is my daily ritual.


  2. Brian says:

    Regarding #19. Is it for sale? I mean, IF I were able to get a loan for several billion dollars, I’m sure she would be thrilled to have the deed to a multibillion dollar company, but would we have to move to Seattle? 🙂


  3. Chris says:

    Regarding #49. Another suggestion… This past winter my Sweet Love surprised me with an electric mattress pad. He plugs it in and heats up my side of the bed a half-hour before we head upstairs every night (and then he unplugs it before we get into bed so we’re not exposed to possible electromagnetic radiation while sleeping). I can’t tell you how much I appreciate not having to lie between cold sheets in the Midwest in January!


  4. scott says:

    Fantastic list, Debi. We quickly forget that it is the daily little acts of love that make the most difference in the long run.


  5. Marie says:

    Great list, but I am surprised you suggested to buy Starbucks. The Starbucks company is not a supporter of traditional marriage, in fact the CEO and Starbucks company openly support gay marriage.


  6. I think the Starbucks idea was to buy a “rare treat”…at least that is what Starbucks is for my household. I might also add that Starbucks does not support our military, either.


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