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Valentine’s Day – Do you have plans? Or do you plan NOT to plan?
Sadly, I’ve heard many couples who have chosen to ignore this day because they don’t like the commercialism behind it all – Hallmark, 1800Flowers, Ghiradelli Chocolate, etc.
Honestly? I don’t like that part either. But ignoring this date on the calendar is like ignoring Christmas because you don’t like how others have commercialized or paganized (I made that word up) it.
But there’s a better way!
Tom and I were married 10 days after Valentine’s Day on February 24th. This year marks our 35th wedding anniversary AND we’ve celebrated both days in February from the very beginning.
The deal has always been – I romance him on V.D., and he romances me on our anniversary. It’s been a fun tradition and gives us both something to look forward to in surprising the other.
Some Valentine’s Day guidelines to consider:
- We never go out to dinner. There is nothing less romantic than sharing a nice cozy restaurant with hundreds of other couples.
- I go all out to bless Tom in unexpected ways.
- He is not allowed to come home until the time I set. He must take his change of clothes to work with him and shower and change at the gym or at a friend’s house.
- I would fix a nice dinner sometimes picking a theme for the evening. Other times fixing his favorites.
For some reason, I’ve heard many wives say they expect their husbands to do all the work on this day. I believe that’s because they’ve bought the commercialized version of the holiday.
What’s wrong with women taking this day to love on their man? It takes the pressure off of him and let’s him enjoy being romanced by me for a change. AND, I get to do something to make the holiday a memorable one.
I don’t enjoy the day any less because I’m the one doing the planning. In fact, I think I’ve enjoyed Valentines Day all the more because of the anticipation of blessing Tom.
Don’t let these excuses hold you back: (continue reading..)
I, unfortunately, disagree with this. Wives have to do so much for their husbands every single day. I think it is nice that we get this one day that we get to be spoiled.
I completely understand your feelings and I’m not surprised our way of doing it won’t work for some. The most important thing is to find what works best for you. Thank you for commenting.
we both enjoy finding ways to do something special for / with each other for Valentine’s Day. It’s not about being spoiled it’s about being a blessing & encouragement to each other, it’s about surprising each other.
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