We recently went to see the movie Unbroken, and unfortunately got there in time to see the previews of upcoming films. We were shocked to see the trailer to the movie, 50 Shades of Grey, rated R, which is set to release on Valentine’s Day, being previewed in a film that is rated PG-13. I am one who is affected visually, so I have to guard strongly the things I let myself see. Needless to say, I closed my eyes through most of the trailer. What is appalling to me is the fact that 13 year old children can legally see this preview and be drawn into the web of sensuality and BDSM by their own curiosity. In much the same way young boys and girls are drawn into pornography via the internet. Not to mention the adverse effect this movie could have on struggling marriages.
This brings up the need for us to sound the alarm once again!
We have already covered the many reasons we strongly disapprove of this book’s–and now this movie’s–message. Read Stop Grey From Becoming The New Black And White. We’ve also written a positive antidote to this movie’s message in a series we did titled 50 Shades of Grace in Marriage. Click the picture to read…
We love marriage. We love God.
We desire to our children and grandchildren grow up to embrace a life-long commitment to love and cherish their spouse. We pray daily that they will grow to love God with all of their heart, mind and spirit. It is a legacy to which we are committed for as long as we will live.
What about you? Have you given much thought to the danger of such movies and/or books? We pray you will think long and hard about it. The future health of the church as well as our culture depends on it.
If you would like to see a movie on Valentine’s Day we recommend a new Indie film titled, Old Fashioned. We watched the trailer, and it didn’t even make me close my eyes. It celebrates what true love looks like in a relationship, and looks like it will be an enjoyable movie. Click here to watch it yourself. 🙂
I was watching a TV show on Hulu that’s rated TV-14 (analogous to PG13), and 50 Shades was advertised in the commercials between segments. I think it’s going to be everywhere, because the filmmakers know how big the novel was and will do everything possible to get those people to the theater. I agree we need to guard our hearts, and also we parents need to speak clearly about this truth-twisting. I don’t believe we need to speak from fear or panic–or speak so intensely and constantly that it could increase their curiosity–but rather present matter-of-fact messages that this representation is not in line with God’s gift of sex in marriage.
Thanks for highlighting this, Debi.
When we did our premarital counselling (15 years ago, as we celebrate 15 years of marriage tomorrow), our priest said to us that sexually anything was permissible, as long as we felt safe, comfortable, and we communicated with each other but no third parties. Whether it be by movies, fantasy, porn, or whatever, no third parties. That was the best advise I’ve ever received. Loved it. Can’t believe that was 15 years ago tomorrow.
What great advice. So many couples struggle with this issue–either being too strict or too lenient in regard to what they can or can’t do in the bedroom. Communication is so important and so hard to do when your newlywed.
Happy 15 years! What a tremendous testimony to the effectiveness of pre-marital counseling. God bless your next 15 years and beyond!
Thank you so much!
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