Be A Fountain Not A Drain


God made natural springs and waterfalls. Man has taken this concept from nature and made them into something beautiful we call…


They are refreshing, and the place where many drop a coin to make a wish. They are found in elite spas, well-kept parks, hotel lobbies and backyard pools. They draw us to them from a distance because of their soothing nature. I love to hear the sound of running water, (except when I have to go the bathroom–but that’s not for this post. lol).

Marriage has been compared to a fountain in Scripture. Listen to King Solomon’s counsel to his young son as recorded in Proverbs 15:

15Drink water from your own cistern,
flowing water from your own well.
16Should your springs be scattered abroad,
streams of water in the streets?
17Let them be for yourself alone,
and not for strangers with you.
18Let your fountain be blessed,
and rejoice in the wife of your youth,
19  a lovely deer, a graceful doe.

As I consider the fountain right outside my window, I’m compelled to consider how like marriage a fountain is.

  • What strikes me first is it’s constancy. There isn’t a pause between the water being drawn in and the water being poured out. It flows without hesitation. In fact, unless you understand how a fountain operates you wouldn’t even know there is any drawing in of the water, for it seems to pour out continually.

A healthy marriage acts in much the same way. As Husbands and wives, if we are acting as we should, we continually pour out our lives for the good of our spouse, our marriage. There is no holding on to my way, standing my ground, demanding my rights, not in a healthy marriage anyway. We give of ourselves 100%, and as we do our marriage becomes an inviting and refreshing place, not only for our spouse but also for our children and all who know us.

  • Another thing I notice about the fountain is it’s boundaries. The water knows its limits and it stays within them. 

A healthy marriage also stays within the boundaries set in the wedding vows. Where we promised to love each other for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad–until death parts us. We vowed to be faithful to each other and to keep our bodies for our spouse alone. We don’t flirt or pursue the attention of others for our selfish pleasure. Our thoughts are of our spouse continually in this regard. Others may draw near to our fountain, to make a wish for their own happiness, but never to join in.

  • Fountains are also unique. I have never seen two fountains exactly alike. This is what draws us to marvel at their beauty. I’ve seen fountains with birds, frogs, harps, cherubs, all kinds. And each one caused me to notice it for it’s own unique beauty.

Marriage does this as well. We began blogging on The Romantic Vineyard in 2008. Back then there weren’t many Christian marriage bloggers. Now the internet is full of them and so many of them are good. Our Christian Marriage Bloggers Association provides an extensive list of other blogs hosted by marriages with something worth sharing for the good of your marriage. It’s like a directory of beautiful fountains to admire and enjoy.

So the next time you’re taking a leisurely walk through a park or garden and happen upon a fountain, pause and thank God for how He has allowed your marriage to function in much the same way. 

There is no marriage like yours. There is no other fountain better than the one you’ve been given. Enjoy it. Cherish it. And most of all thank God for it. Marriage was His idea in the first place, like the natural spring or the never ending waterfall, may your marriage flow continually for your good and His glory.




About Debi Walter

Tom and Debi have been sharing encouragements through their blogs for many years. Marriage, Reading God's Word and documenting family history is our focus. Growing in our relationship with the Lord is primary in all we say, write or do. We are grateful for all who desire to join us in the same endeavors.
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2 Responses to Be A Fountain Not A Drain

  1. I really like this, so well said. 🙂


    • Debi Walter says:

      Thank you! It’s amazing where inspiration comes for a post. I’ve never thought of this before until I sat down and looked out the window. Now I don’t think I’ll ever look at a fountain in the same way again. 😊

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