Keeping It Real–Worth The Effort

If you haven’t figured it out by now, I love parties. I love holidays. I love surprises. I love celebrations. Since Tom has retired it makes it very difficult to surprise him. He is almost always home when I’m home. Except for yesterday! 🙂

He had to run errands that were going to take most of the day, and I was elated! Not because he would be gone mind you, but because I could surprise him!

Our bedroom has been a mess since early spring when I decided to go through our library and get rid of the books we no longer wanted. I also intended to move the bookshelf from our bedroom into Tom’s office, but it was too big. I didn’t know what to do, so I did nothing…for months! <sigh>

Tom is a very patient man. He never complains about unfinished projects, but he will give me (what Gary Thomas calls)  a “bid” every now and then. A few days ago he mentioned that he’d love to get our bedroom back sometime, and yesterday was the day I was able to catch his bid.

I spent a few hours going through the books we wanted to donate and organizing the ones we would keep. I made the bed, cleaned, vacuumed (one of Tom’s favorite things), turned on the lamps as well as smooth jazz for added effect. His surprise was ready and waiting for him to come home; I was so excited!

When he walked in the door he did what I hoped; he went to our room to change. I said nothing but let him see for himself. He was blown away! Makes me wonder how many times I miss what’s important to him because I’m not listening.

Let’s purpose to pay attention to the ways in which we can bless our spouse. It may not mean much to us, but if it’s important to them it’s absolutely worth it! 


About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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2 Responses to Keeping It Real–Worth The Effort

  1. Randy/Vickie Bale says:

    Thank you for sharing this, Debi. Great reminder for all of us!


    • Debi Walter says:

      You’re welcome! I think these “keeping it real” posts are necessary for younger couples to see. Lasting marriages take lots of hard work, but it’s worth it all!


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