The Role Of Faithful Friends

A mountain stream provides the perfect metaphor for the importance of friends in marriage.
Photo by Will Swann on Unsplash

I love watching water in nature. Whether it be the ocean in its vastness, the waterfall in its power, the lake as it shimmers in the sunshine, or the rain pelting on a tin roof. But there is something about a mountain stream that calms my soul like nothing else. It is as if it giggles as it moves.

The Lord often speaks to me in word pictures to bring home a truth that I’ll remember. This morning He had me consider a leaf floating down a mountain stream. It makes its way without having to do anything but yield to the current. It has movement and purpose, yet it glides over rocks and tree roots without effort, or so it seems.

As I was considering this the Lord impressed on me that this is like marriage. There are days when it is effortless. No conflicts. No problems to overcome. The days are enjoyed floating together taking in the beautiful surroundings. And then out of nowhere a conflict arises like a large boulder creating a dam of sorts in the stream. It requires time to wait for help in order to proceed.

Tom and I have been in this place many times. This is why we feel strongly about being involved in community with other believers. Those who know us well and are willing to speak the truth to us in our time of need. I don’t know where we would be today if it weren’t for the faithful input and correction of friends whom we love and respect. Our marriage success is owed in large part to their faithfulness to befriend us.

What boulders are you facing in your marriage today? Do you have friends who are aware of your predicament, or are you trying to go it alone? We encourage you to seek help for it is from a place of humility that the Lord can grow your marriage best. This is not weakness, it is strength that God provides which rises from the lowest places.

“6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” – 1 Peter 5:6-7

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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6 Responses to The Role Of Faithful Friends

  1. Great post, Debi

    Friends can ensure continuity, too, and when you’re ing, you’ve got to encourage that.

    On cancer’s rapids, swirling,
    I hear the falls ahead.
    and it’s far, far too early
    to picture myself dead.
    But lo, the next life beckons,
    and ere this journey ends
    I’ll let go the precious seconds
    so my wife can make new friends.
    Born of a life more normal
    these unions have a chance
    of outlasting the formal
    shared-crisis friendship dance.
    I want her to live tomorrow
    beyond a monument to sorrow.

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  2. Anna Jelstrom says:

    This is poem so precious… so giving.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Debi Walter says:

      Isn’t it Anna! I can hardly read it without tears flowing! Andrew has an amazing blog that documents what it’s like in their marriage to face a terminal illness. I highly recommend it!


  3. This is such good advice. Love the picture, too.

    Liked by 1 person

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