Are you up for a challenge? It will require you to put on fresh eyes to see something familiar in a new way. Still interested?
If you are at home do the following:
1. Get up and walk into your Master Bedroom.
2. Go no further than just inside the door.
3. Look around and take in all the parts you love about your room, those parts that bring you joy.
4. Now make note of the parts that don’t add to the ambiance of your space, like bills, work papers, laundry, clutter, and toys.
This post is meant to help you recapture your space for you and your spouse. If you have children they have the rest of the house to play in. Don’t let them take the only space reserved for you!
Trust me! Having your own, grown-up space where you can both retreat to at the end of each day brings intimacy back into focus. It gives you a place where you can breathe a sigh of relief and remember what romance feels like.
Not sure if this would be true for you? Give it a shot. The worst that could happen is your room gets a much needed cleaning. The best is your marriage gets a boost, which we all require from time to time.
For step by step help along the way check out How To Sizzle Your Space!
Let this Valentine’s Day be your deadline by which to complete this challenge. Are you willing? If so, leave a comment so I know. Then take a photo of how your room looks today. Once finished take another photo and admire the results! If you’d like, feel free to share your before and after photos on our FaceBook Page.
For more inspiration check out our Pinterest Board of Romantic Bedrooms
The Romantic Vineyard 
This is a challenge for us. My wife decided to early on to sleep with the kids. They are 1 and 3 year old. I slept in the bed too in the beginning but then started to sleep on the couch. One reason was my snoringz A couple of months ago my wife said she understood how wrong this was and wanted me to sleep in the bed again. But it’s difficult for me. We are 4 in the bed. I feel bad for snoring and taking a lot of place. Also I got used to a certain routine. I help my wife put the kids to bed. She goes to slee with them. I wait until they go to sleep and then I do what I want and then go to sleep. It can feel lonely and for a long time I wanted back to the bed but felt bad if I would annoy my wife, sometimes she could wake me up in the middle of the night and ask me if I could go to sleep on the couch. Now this may sound like we had some kind of problem but we didn’t. She loves the kids and wants to be with them as much she can so that’s why(family members who says it’s ok doesn’t help).
The problem is that now this is how things are. I am also used to it. I don’t have to wake up in the middle of the night if the kids wake up which is sweet for me but I wonder how much intimacy we miss. So our problem is that my wife wants it this way(she gets upset when I now and then go to the couch because I find it stressful to share the bed with the kids) and I have gotten so used to this that I don’t know how to change it. I see post like this and don’t know what to do.
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At some point you and your wife will have to talk about this at length. There are remedies for snoring if this is what caused the separation in the first place. But to stay on this path will be detrimental to the health of your relationship. Marriage grows and exists for the glory of God and the growth of husband and wife. The children are a blessing to the marriage but not the sole purpose of it. They will grow up and move away. What’s left of your relationship determines if you’ll make it at that point. We have seen far too many couples pour their lives into the children only to realize when they grow up that they no longer know each other.
The most important encouragement we can give you is to deal with this now. Drifting apart seems harmless at first but it will separate you in ways that aren’t healthy.
We pray you find a resolution to this.
Tom and Debi
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