If I wake up before Tom, one of the ways I enjoy showing him my love and care is to get his coffee ready to brew. If I hear him stirring in the bedroom I’ll even press the brew button so that his coffee is ready for him when he appears.
This doesn’t take much effort on my part, but it speaks volumes to him.
- First, it lets him know I was thinking of him.
- Second, He sees that I was willing to put aside my routine to do something special for him.
- Third, He realizes how well I know him–listening for him to wake up, and taking the steps to make his favorite morning beverage.
Little things don’t take much effort, but it requires an intentionality to see the opportunity when it arises.
There are lots of other little ways to show my love for him. And what works for my husband may not work for yours. Gary Thomas in his excellent book, Cherish, calls this “cherishing your unique spouse.”
Cherishing each other requires dealing with a real, particular spouse and is fueled by the spouse’s uniqueness. If two-carat diamonds were as common as sand on a seashore, none of them would be cherished. But the fact that something is different makes it precious. That’s why we cherish it—it’s one of a kind. Your spouse is unique, special—and for them to feel cherished, they need to be treated as such.
We each have a unique spouse with likes and preferences unlike anyone else. The wise and loving spouse will spend time getting to know them in an effort to love and bless their uniqueness.
What is one thing you know your spouse enjoys? Do all you can to make this happen for them today. It may not seem like much, but it’s the little things that speak volumes of our love and commitment to make their lives better.
This is our 7th post in the Ultimate Blog Challenge to post everyday in April.