Is it possible that one word can hold the power to change your sex life? We believe so. This word not only can change your sex life for the better, but how you see your marriage as a whole. What is this magic word?
Actually it’s not magic at all. It comes from God’s Word.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Hebrews 13:4 ESV
Honor. It is a word used to show the highest respect and regard. In relation to marriage specifically it means to give our marriage the highest respect and regard it above all other relationships. The question to ask is do we?
Do we honor our spouse by doing what we said we would do? Or have we grown comfortable and apathetic towards each other?
For some couples the topic of sexual intimacy is a hot button that once pushed ignites all kinds of conflict. Over time they just don’t go there anymore. Intimacy occurs only when one finally gives in to the request.
It grieves us to hear it. The one part of marriage that is supposed to provide the deepest level of connection cause the biggest chasm.
We understand. It takes a willingness to be known and a desire to understand each other. It also requires an intentional commitment to get to there. And if one spouse is carrying secret hurts, shame or guilt it complicates matters further. Add to it the inability to communicate why there is a struggle in the first place and you’ve set the stage for failure.
We encourage you to examine your own heart, instead of judging your spouse. See if you are honoring your spouse in the way you think of them, pray for them and encourage them.