Caring For A Broken Heart

My brother went to be with Jesus last week. In just five short weeks he went from being a healthy husband, father, Papa and brother to fighting for his life against Covid. Many of you have prayed with us for God to heal him. God answered our prayers by giving him the ultimate healing, but we are still numb, not sure what happened.

My heart is broken. Seeing my sister-in-law and her children and grandchildren grapple with their new life without him is painful. There is nothing we can do or say to make it better. The only way through this is moving forward, one painful step at a time.

I am grateful we have no regrets other than no more time together in this life.

– They were married 42 years like us.

– They got married 5 weeks after us.

– We had children together and…

– We lived in the same area for all but 15 months of our married lives.

Tom loved my brother as his own. Being strong for me is more challenging when we’re both grieving. But he has certainly been my rock. Most of the time he has simply held me and let me cry.

Billy was a great brother, and we are grateful we will be together again one day. But he leaves behind a big hole.

We have no guarantees how many years we’ll share before “death do us part.” But we can be there for each other through all life sends our way; whether it’s sickness, health, richer, poorer, better times or worse times. Give your spouse the space, love and support they need when struggling. If not you, then who? It’s the reason we made vows to begin with, and it’s how we are called to care for a broken heart.

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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4 Responses to Caring For A Broken Heart

  1. There is a pain which words cannot adequately define. Yet, words must be spoken and you did a wonderful job speaking some of those words at your brother’s service. Love you and Tom.

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  2. Vickie L Bale says:

    Tom & Debi, we are so-o very sorry for your loss. Seems like you’ve been going through so many challenging times in your lives lately. Our hearts hurt for you guys. Thankful to know God is there with you and in you through each trial. Looking forward to the day we’re all in heaven and all this earthly trials will be over. Hugs and prayers for you guys.

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  3. Debi, words can do no justice for what everyone of you are feeling right now. And the same can be said about grief…no words. Grief is simply love with no where to go as that person is no longer physically with us.

    I have been praying and will continue to do so.

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