Living in Florida we have had the joy of tubing down a river enjoying the scenery and the cool, refreshing water. There is nothing quite as relaxing and fun as spending hours together floating down the springs. However, it is of utmost importance to stay in the current in order to avoid the sides where spiders and snakes may dwell.
It is the same in our marriages – our lives are spent together day after day enjoying (or trying to enjoy) what life sends our way. It is just as important that we stay in the current! What we mean by this is not holding onto anger, resentment or ill-thoughts towards our spouse. If we attempt to ignore these issues and pretend they’re “nothing”, we’ll find ourselves sidetracked into all kinds of danger and mucky water. “Keeping current” with your spouse means committing yourself to share with them your feelings, observations and heartaches. We must quickly ask forgiveness when we’ve sinned against them, and we must quickly extend forgiveness when they’ve sinned against us.
We don’t realize how these little choices day after day will fuel the current of our relationship successfully bringing us to a place of marital unity years from now. Sadly, many couples hold onto offenses and refuse to let go of past hurts. They hurl the pain back onto their spouse at every opportunity. It’s like permanently pushing your spouse into the shallow water of adversity and hoping they’ll stay there! And to what does this avail? Only misery and more heartache.
As Christians we must resist such behavior! Why? Because Christ has not treated us this way when we deserved it most! He has extended forgiveness to us for the unforgivable acts we have committed. The Cross stands as our motivator giving us the ability to stay current. Love is choosing to do the right thing even when we’d rather not!
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” Colossians 3:12-13