It’s good to remember the Fruit of the Spirit is one fruit with nine attributes. This means nine virtues which are evident in ever growing measure in the life of a believer. This being said – today we focus on the gift of Peace as it relates to marriage.
Peace cannot be seen, but it’s absence is always noticeable. You can see it missing from the face of a wife who is anxious. It’s absence is noticed when a husband isn’t sure how he’s going to pay the bills. There are lots of circumstances that tempt us to surrender the peace that God gives us for anxiety, worry and even fear.
A person who is peaceful is described by David Powlison as one who is “quiet on the inside.” He says:
He isn’t busy-busy-busy. Not obsessed. Not on edge. The to-do list and pressures to achieve don’t consume him. Ambition doesn’t churn inside. Failure and despair don’t haunt him. Anxiety isn’t spinning him into free fall. He isn’t preoccupied with thinking up the next thing he wants to say. Regrets don’t corrode his inner experience. Irritation and dissatisfaction don’t devour him. He’s not stumbling through the mine field of blind longings and fears.
One may think it’s impossible to have peace in the midst of difficulty; to be quiet in the midst of the storm, but Scripture tells us otherwise:
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7
We will always have things which tempt our hearts to be anxious. But as we give them to the Lord in prayer, He promises to give us peace – a peace “which surpasses all understanding.” In other words, we don’t have to understand the answers we receive or worry when we the answer doesn’t make sense to us. We can trust Christ!
A man who possesses this peace is a humble man, because he realizes such peace isn’t from him. The scripture continues and shows us how to practically become quiet on the inside. Read it, and let’s practice peace in our marriage! It is a choice we make everyday.
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. 9 What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you.”
– Philippians 4:8-9