This may sound like an unkind way to talk to your spouse, but it’s not what you think.

My husband learned early on in our relationship of my fear of palmetto bugs, aka roaches. If you don’t know what these are—Google it. There’s no way I will even include a photo on this topic. Just a photo makes my skin crawl! (Note: the cute dog photo above).

Growing up in Florida these large flying insects attacked me often. If there was one in the room it always, and I’m not exaggerating, came right for me.

Our first night staying at my parents together after our honeymoon was when Tom witnessed my fear.

We stayed up late waiting for my parents to go to bed to avoid the awkwardness of us going to bed together. We were young and it felt weird to sleep together in the room that was mine 5 days before.

Anyway, once we got in bed and turned off the lights, I screamed and jumped out of bed. I felt a roach crawling on me. Tom was sure it was my imagination since I had seen one earlier that night.

He calmly turned on the light and threw back the covers to show me there was noth…!!! And was he wrong!! There was huge palmetto bug in the bed with us. Ewww!! Needless to stay we both sat up in the living room the rest of the night.

Tom talked to me over and over about getting over my fear of these horrible bugs; To no avail.

After 45+ years of marriage, I am delighted to tell you that Tom has become the Bug Buster of our home. He buys the professional stuff from Do It Yourself Pest Control and treats our house inside and out and it works! We can go an entire year without a single bug making it alive in our home.

This is one of the best examples of how he cherishes me and I couldn’t be more grateful.

Because of Tom’s care for me in this regard I can honestly say I’m no longer bugged.

Who is the bug buster in your home? Or do you have other fears that your spouse protects you from facing?

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