Author Archives: Debi Walter

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.

Passport Dinner Dates

Tom and I love to travel, but with the pandemic it has been impossible for most. Especially elective vacation travel. We shared this date idea in 2009 under our Top 10 Date Night Ideas, but we felt this date needs … Continue reading

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Kindness Check

Recently I was in the Starbucks drive thru waiting for my Christmas latte. Imagine my surprise when I got to the window to hear, “Your drink was paid for by the car in front of you, Merry Christmas!”? What? I … Continue reading

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Craving Intimacy

A new year is upon us. 2022. And we have another opportunity to be intentional in our pursuit of each other and God. Spiritual intimacy comes easier for some than others. What you do with the distance matters. You are … Continue reading

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Two Keys for Devotion in Marriage

Devotion. It’s one of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage. But it’s two-fold. Devotion to God. Tom and I committed our marriage to God—a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. What we promised matters because we said our … Continue reading

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Comfort and Joy

It’s Christmas week and we’ve been more aware in recent years of our need for comfort and joy. Tom’s stepdad is in the final stages of life with Hospice overseeing his comfort. He has lived a full life and at … Continue reading

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Physician or Prosecutor?

In one our favorite marriage books, Cherish, Gary Thomas uses a very helpful metaphor in how to help your spouse. We all have things we do wrong at some point in our relationship whether it is blatant sin against each … Continue reading

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Check Your Headlights

Headlights on cars are important. Without them it’s difficult to see what’s in front of you. Worse, it’s impossible for oncoming traffic to see you. We have noticed more cars on the road recently without their headlights on after dark. … Continue reading

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Focus

This has been a challenging season for most marriages. The reasons vary, but the pressure is similar. How can we turn our focus from what troubles us to what blesses us? Pray. Ask God to give you an idea on … Continue reading

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Building Spiritual Intimacy

Tom and I are in route to GA for Thanksgiving. The temps are dropping drastically and the trees are showing off their Fall wardrobe. It is another road trip for us where we can catch up on life. We love … Continue reading

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When The Roses Are Wilted And The Wine Is Flat

Most of you know how much we have been through the past few years. It has seemed that one crisis after another has continued since the beginning os 2019. Throw a pandemic in the middle of it all and it’s … Continue reading

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Do You Feel Understood?

How well do you understand your spouse? When they experience loss or disappointment, are you surprised at their expression or lack of expression? We tend to judge our spouse based on how we would respond thinking we’re being helpful. We … Continue reading

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It’s About Time

We all have the same amount everyday. 24 hours, 1440 minutes and two people to focus on each day. It is a gift! Marriage is unlike any other relationship. We are committed to pursuing each other. Whether you and your … Continue reading

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Crossing the Line of Acceptance

I know which side he sleeps on when he first goes to sleep. I know his favorite snacks I know how to make him smile when he doesn’t feel like it. I know his story–every detail of how he came … Continue reading

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Sweet and Savory Fondues for Two

To start off plan an evening where you can both be involved with the preparations. The aroma of these delicious recipes will certainly get your appetite going, and when you finally sit down to a candle-lit fondue, all your senses … Continue reading

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To Cherish or Admonish?

You’ve probably had it happen in your marriage too. Your spouse is telling a familiar story to some friends and they get a detail wrong. How could they not remember how it happened? Admonishment is my knee-jerk reaction in such … Continue reading

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Your Story Is Your History

Sitting on our porch at Barefoot Cabin I had the thought—how many days have we shared since we were married? One of the best parts of Google is being able to find the answer quickly to such random questions. We … Continue reading

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That’s A Good Question

As I’m writing this post, the leaves are falling at my feet with cool temperatures and sunny skies. It is a perfect picture of a crisp, fall day in the mountains. But the scenery doesn’t matter when it comes to … Continue reading

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Food, Film and Fun Scavenger Hunt

I don’t know about you, but Tom and I are ready to start doing things with other couples. We have done a few dinner dates, but nothing really organized or planned. I saw recently where a friend posted about a … Continue reading

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Can You Trust Me Here?

We had only been married a few months when I became very sick, requiring surgery. The look in Tom’s eyes revealed his concern, but even more revealing was his deep love for me. I saw mirrored in him the love … Continue reading

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Test Your Marriage

Have you ever noticed that if something is bothering you in your marriage it’s all you can think about or see? Tom uses an illustration that is so helpful… Take a credit card and hold it in your hand. Stretch … Continue reading

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