Author Archives: Debi Walter

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 36 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.

2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter ‘S”

Some letters are easier to plan dates around than others. This one was super easy and always a favorite of ours. SUNRISE, SEA, SUN, SAND AND SEAFOOD Living near the beach this one is a date we enjoy often, but … Continue reading

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We Have A Winner!

The winner of our Cherish Your Spouse, Giveaway is…Helen! Congratulations! Please email us your address so we can get these books sent to you right away. Thank you to all who took the time to intentionally answer this all-important question, … Continue reading

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Have You Entered Our Giveaway?

We want to give away a Cherish Your Spouse package that includes a copy of Gary Thomas’ book, Cherish, and a copy of our book, Cherishing Us – 365 Healthy Tips from The Romantic Vineyard. How to enter: 1. Comment … Continue reading

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A Personal Marriage Designer (and a Cherish Your Spouse Giveaway)i

When Tom and I began The Romantic Vineyard nearly a decade ago (where has the time gone?), we chose the title because we had no better words to describe our passion–romance in marriage. This has been our calling in life … Continue reading

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2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter “R”

Tom planned for us to enjoy some R & R on this date, and I must say it was all that and more! We went to ROCK Springs for a RIVER tour in a transparent kayak. We RELAXED on the … Continue reading

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A Gift to Avoid Drift

For my birthday this year Tom has committed to work out with me at home. He went so far and quit his gym membership too, so I knew he was serious. I am excited for this new chapter in our … Continue reading

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2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter “Q”

I remember the last time we did the alphabet dates I had the letter “Q” as well. Can I just say I think I should get extra points since this letter is so difficult? But I’m Quite happy to say… … Continue reading

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Wake Up Call

This has been a difficult week for our church family. A dear friend and long time member of our church had a massive heart attack last Tuesday morning. They were just enjoying normal life when this crisis hit them unexpectedly. … Continue reading

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This One Practice Produces Change

In our last post we talked about the detriment it is to have a condemning spirit towards your spouse. Today we want to talk about the antidote. In the Christian life the antidote to a condemning spirit is a grateful … Continue reading

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Here Comes The Judge

Our pastor preached on Romans 8 this past Sunday. It was a good reminder of the freedom we have in Christ, and an encouragement to no longer live in condemnation. He said something at the end though, that made me … Continue reading

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Marriage Creed

We visited a church yesterday while staying with our daughter and her husband in Arkansas. In the lobby they had their creed on display for all to see. It was captivating and encouraged discussion. This caused me to consider what … Continue reading

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2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter “P”

Tom planned something that I love to do on this date–go to a PLAY. This one was The Wiz, one I had not seen before. Being an avid fan of The Wizard of Oz, I was really looking forward to … Continue reading

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A Closer Look at What Bores You

Living life with the same person becomes familiar as it should over time. But when the familiar becomes boring this can be the sign there is something else at play. Jon Bloom wrote an excellent article on the Desiring God … Continue reading

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2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter “O”

I struggled with planning this date because I wanted to do something different that Tom would enjoy. Of course there are the obvious “O’s” from which one could choose, but like I said I wanted something fun and unique. Then … Continue reading

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My Marriage Is Mediocre—Now What?

In our last post we shared 11 possible indicators your marriage might be mediocre. Today we want to offer some practical tips to help get you out of this trap. As a reminder here is our list: Your life revolves … Continue reading

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11 Possible Indicators You Have A Mediocre Marriage

MEDIOCRE. Just the sound of it is blah, don’t you think? I looked up the definition and found this interesting… One of the things that is remarkable about mediocre is the extent to which it has retained its meaning over … Continue reading

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Marriage Markers to See and Follow

Tom and I visited Sequoia National Park several years ago. We decided to hike a trail through the giant trees. We were encouraged to try a shorter trail requiring little experience. As we headed out we found one that said … Continue reading

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2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter “N”

This date was simple, but stands out as a favorite! Tom went with a “New York” theme starting with NEW YORK STRIP steaks cooked perfectly on the grill. 😊 I made a playlist on our Amazon Prime Music account of … Continue reading

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2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter “M”

It was my turn to plan a date. We drove to the mall where we took an hour to do our 10.5.1 Mall Date. We hadn’t done this in a few years, so it felt fresh. The idea is to … Continue reading

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