Author Archives: Debi Walter

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.

A Dormant Season

Posted on January 21, 2021 by Debi Walter

We have a huge, very healthy bougainvillea in our backyard. It is so large it is pushing our new fence and making it difficult to walk by it without getting scratched by it’s enormous thorns. We needed to prune it, … Continue reading →

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Growth Through Heartache

Posted on January 15, 2021 by Debi Walter

I referred to it in our last post. Today I want to share the story that took our marriage from the honeymoon stage to the next level of intimacy–growth through heartache. Tom and I wanted children. We had decided on … Continue reading →

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California Dreamin’ On Such A Winter’s Day

Posted on January 13, 2021 by Debi Walter

We had only been married a couple of years when we decided to take a trip across the country to visit Tom’s parents. I was a Florida girl, born and raised, and had heard about California my whole life, but … Continue reading →

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When Opposites Don’t Attract

Posted on January 8, 2021 by Debi Walter

The old adage that opposites attract is often said in regard to marriage, and it is true most times. Tom and I couldn’t be more opposite in areas that aren’t important, e.g. how we like our eggs, hot beverage of … Continue reading →

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25 of My Favorite Things Date Idea

Posted on January 6, 2021 by Debi Walter

Favorite things are just that–favorites. And most people will talk for hours about what they love if you can figure out what that is. Your spouse is no exception. I had the idea to think about my favorite things and … Continue reading →

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Forced To Embrace Something I Used To Hate

Posted on January 4, 2021 by Debi Walter

For one who doesn’t like it, I have had a lot of it in my life. I used to literally hate it. What is this thing I disdained so? Change. In all it’s varying forms I resisted change as much … Continue reading →

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20 Questions From Last Year Worth Repeating

Posted on January 2, 2021 by Debi Walter

It’s a good habit to pause at the beginning of a new year and reflect on the year before to help you make changes in the year ahead. We compiled 20 questions last year that are just as applicable to … Continue reading →

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Goodbye 2020 – You Won’t Be Missed, But You’ll Never Be Forgotten

Posted on December 30, 2020 by Debi Walter

This year is about to slip away at the stroke of midnight. In one second’s time 2020 will be gone, but it will be a year we will never forget. It will be taught in the history books of our … Continue reading →

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How Advent Informs our Marriage with Joy

Posted on December 23, 2020 by Debi Walter

This post is my heart in black and white. It has been a difficult year and a half in our family. We have faced circumstances that have revealed things in my heart that are hard to bear. My husband has … Continue reading →

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How Advent Informs Our Marriage with Love

Posted on December 18, 2020 by Debi Walter

If it weren’t for Christ coming to earth as a baby, we wouldn’t be able to express true love to our spouse. He paved the way in the darkness to bring light and love to all who believe in Him. … Continue reading →

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How Advent Informs Our Marriage with Peace

Posted on December 10, 2020 by Debi Walter

Peace. We all long for peace. But peace isn’t what many of us expect. It isn’t silence or a lack of any thing that irritates or troubles us. This is one of our favorite scenes from the movie, What About … Continue reading →

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How Advent Informs Our Marriage with Hope

Posted on December 2, 2020 by Debi Walter

We are in the first week of Advent where we are encouraged to focus on the Hope of the Gospel. Jesus was born of a virgin bringing with Him the hope of the world. It is a lasting hope that … Continue reading →

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When Thanksgiving Isn’t Happy

Posted on November 23, 2020 by Debi Walter

It happens, and most are more aware after this year’s events, of how life can look completely different than you expected or hoped. Who would have ever anticipated a pandemic that altered normal life for the entire world? It has … Continue reading →

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The Well Seasoned Marriage

Posted on November 6, 2020 by Debi Walter

I find it interesting that Fall brings me such joy. I’ve heard many others say Fall is their favorite season as well. But when it comes to the seasons of marriage I have to ask myself, do I enjoy the … Continue reading →

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No Tricks—All Treats This Halloween

Posted on October 31, 2020 by Debi Walter

I’ve started to write a post several times and my mind goes blank. Life has been unpredictable this year, and it keeps coming at us. Our youngest daughter gave birth to her first baby at 24 weeks and 5 days … Continue reading →

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What Is Your Endurance Level in Marriage?

Posted on October 14, 2020 by Debi Walter

Life has made it very difficult for me to work out on a consistent basis. I do it just enough to be really sore afterwards–for days. My endurance is lacking. How do I increase my endurance? By doing what I … Continue reading →

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Introducing Simon and Eden

Posted on October 12, 2020 by Debi Walter

Tom and I have enjoyed the new series on the life and ministry of Jesus titled, The Chosen. If you haven’t seen it yet, we highly recommend it. It’s unlike any production of this nature. It provides insight into the … Continue reading →

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Vintage Post – Constrained or Compromised?

Posted on September 25, 2020 by Debi Walter

Originally posted March 2011 Driving down the road they stand as deformed sentinels declaring to everyone, “I was here first!”  Yet progress moves forward without regard for the hows, whys or who’s in the way.  I’m talking about beautiful trees … Continue reading →

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What’s The Big Deal About Marriage Anyway?

Posted on September 18, 2020 by Debi Walter

Marriage. It seems to be old-fashioned to many in our culture. Kind of a romantic gesture that is optional for co-habitating couples, but not necessary. I’ve heard some say, “Marriage is just a piece of paper that doesn’t prove anything. … Continue reading →

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Pandemic Marriage Check Up

Posted on September 14, 2020 by Debi Walter

Tension. Every marriage faces it. It comes from no where and sometimes settles so thick you could cut it with a knife. Many use words instead, which cuts deeper and always leaves a scar. Pandemics are like a boiler keeping … Continue reading →

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