Author Archives: Debi Walter

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 36 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.

Can I Be Honest?

I recently talked with a wife who said she was finally in a place in their marriage where she could be honest with her husband. They didn’t have a bad marriage. But they had settled and weren’t working to make … Continue reading

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Near Miss

Sometimes we have a near miss and don’t even realize it, but not this time. This time I happened to be looking out our window at 35,000′ when a Southwest Jet flew by our window going in the opposite direction. … Continue reading

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Choices and Voices

Choices. We make them everyday, all day long! What motivates the choices we make? Now that’s a question worth considering. Today Tom and I had another one of those moments that we don’t like. It was not that big a … Continue reading

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But God!

I have contemplated writing this post for a week. Not sure what to say to offer help for your marriage when we are struggling with our own dark valley. When we asked for your prayers in our last post we … Continue reading

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Asking for Prayer

Last I posted I shared how I had been sick. Thank God I am well, but our granddaughter is in the biggest battle of her 12 year old life. Tom and I drove to Atlanta a month ago to help … Continue reading

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Try Something New For A Changei

It’s been two weeks since my last post, and I’m still struggling to get well. Since I don’t want to leave you hanging, I figured a quick update would be good. Being home for what seems like forever, I have … Continue reading

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When Your Spouse is Sick and Tired

We have all been there. Schedules have to be adjusted and plans canceled. It’s never fun when sickness hits your spouse. How prepared are you to love and cherish your spouse when they get sick and tired? I am posting … Continue reading

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What Are Your Top Two?

We all have areas in our marriage that are in need of attention. What we do with these areas is the defining difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy marriage. Having a church community of friends who know and … Continue reading

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From Darkness To Light – Take Our Marriage Poll

Light. It has a way of providing direction when we need it most. Have you ever experienced total darkness? The kind where you can’t see your hand in front of your face? I have and it can be paralyzing. We … Continue reading

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Five Friday Favorites – Retired Life

Tom retired a year ago, after what I like to call three soft-landings. It was strange for him to switch from a “work to save for retirement” mentality to a “let’s live on what we’ve saved for retirement” mindset. I … Continue reading

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Our Emotional Roller Coaster

I hate roller coasters. They throw off your equilibrium and make you have to regain footing once you’re back on solid ground. Not to mention the unexpected twists, turns and drops along the way. I’d rather not take part, thank … Continue reading

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Vintage Post – Rainy Date Ideas

Since we are having so much rain on the east coast this summer, I figured it’s a good time to inspire some creative date nights. The following was originally posted on May 28, 2009. The rainy season is upon us, … Continue reading

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Not This Time

Change. We change clothes daily. We change our schedules to meet demands. We change our attitudes when it’s hurting others. Change can be easy if it’s something we want to do. But not all change is easy. I have found … Continue reading

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Five Friday Favorites – Turning 60, Off To A Good Start

On Wednesday I awoke with the realization that time passes so quickly. How did I get to 60? I don’t feel 60 most days, but recently I feel older than that. I have been fighting an ongoing health issue–not serious, … Continue reading

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Time To Stop Listening, And Start Talking Loud And Clear

The title may seem backwards, but it’s not. I’m not talking about listening to others. I’m talking about how often we listen to our own thoughts and allow them to inform our mood for the day. Instead, we should speak … Continue reading

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Living Our Marriage Backwards

Our church just finished a series studying the book of Ecclesiastes. It has been a sobering and encouraging endeavor. I have learned much in the process. I am grateful for a church where God’s Word is cherished–all 66 books of … Continue reading

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Five Friday Favorites – Lovin’ Summer Dates

“Summer lovin’ had me a blast Summer lovin’ went by so fast.” These are paraphrased lyrics from a popular song in the musical, Grease. And it’s the inspiration for today’s Friday Favorites. The lazy days of Summer go by fast, … Continue reading

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The Best Thing You Can Do To Make Your Marriage Better Right Now

How is your marriage? Are you experiencing what we call a high-high? Or a low-low? Maybe you find your marriage somewhere in between. Wherever your marriage currently lies, the best thing you can do has nothing to do with the … Continue reading

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Five Friday Favorites – Difficult Topics in Marriage

So often in marriage the way the enemy works against us it to make us uncomfortable talking about important topics. The only way to counter this attack is to do the difficult thing and talk about them. We are privileged … Continue reading

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Giving God Full Creative Access

Imagine an artist gifted in painting realism who has an accident in the studio. Paint is splashed all over the canvas ruining the piece as they had planned. But is it ruined or just different? Abstract paintings are as beautiful … Continue reading

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