Author Archives: Debi Walter

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 36 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.

Happy Hour

I have finally found time to read other blogs and I am being blessed in the process. Some are not marriage blogs, per se, but the truths can be applied to your marriage. I pray these selections will cause your … Continue reading

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Listen, Ask, Repeat – A Key To Effective Communication

I’ve spent 24 of the last 35 days away from home helping to care for our daughter and her family post-surgery. Tom was with me most of that time. A great benefit of retirement is that what I used to … Continue reading

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Making Up For Lost Time

When was the last time you planned something your spouse wasn’t expecting? Since Daylight Saving Time begins tomorrow night, why not think of a way to surprise them this weekend as a way of making up for lost time. 🙂 … Continue reading

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Ash Wednesday Traditions in Marriage

Today is Ash Wednesday. The first day of Lent–marking the first of 40 days leading up to Easter Sunday. The most important season on the Christian calendar Most of you are probably familiar with the traditions surrounding this day–fasting from … Continue reading

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Cut Off The Fuel That Feeds The Fire

Always be kind. That’s what our parents taught us growing up. “Kindness begets kindness,” they would say. But in the heat of the moment many forget to put their kindness on display. I remember my husband telling me about an … Continue reading

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Doing This One Thing Helps Anniversaries Become A Lasting Memory

40 years! Today marks our 40th wedding anniversary. I started a tradition I didn’t know was a tradition until I had been doing it regularly each anniversary. It’s one of those things that has become precious to us as the … Continue reading

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Lessons Learned in 40 Years of Marriage – Part II

Has your spouse ever spoken words to you that had a sting to it? The kind that seemed out of character for them? Oftentimes our feelings override our reason and keep us from bringing the situation to a peaceful resolve. … Continue reading

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Lessons Learned in 40 Years of Marriage

This Sunday we will celebrate our 40th anniversary. Four decades of life lived side by side. This week we will take a look back on some of the lessons we’ve learned thus far. It has been worth every tear, every … Continue reading

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Love Letter Discovery

We have talked for years about the lost art of writing heart-felt sentiments on paper. We came upon this report that will bring tears to your eyes. May this inspire us to write our own love letters to each other. … Continue reading

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Gratefulness

Today is the day after Valentine’s Day. You may be basking in the glow of an amazing night with your spouse. You may be disappointed in the lack of love expressed to you yesterday, or you may be indifferent to … Continue reading

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Happy Valentine’s Day

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Your Past No Longer Defines You

Did you know that if you are a Christian your past sins no longer define you? You are a new creation! If this is true, which I believe it is–why do we live as if our sin is who we … Continue reading

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6 Last Minute Valentines Ideas To The Rescue

There are couples who go all out for Valentines Day because they enjoy it. Whether you spend a ridiculous amount of money to dine out with the crowds (hardly romantic in my humble opinion), or maybe you buy stereotypical gifts … Continue reading

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The Necessity Of Light

We have two three-way lamps in our bedroom on either side of our bed. Each light setting provides a different purpose. If I just want to make our room look nice and inviting, I’ll put it on the lower light. … Continue reading

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Caution vs. Impulse

We will celebrate 40 years of marriage on the 24th of this month. Does this make us experts in all things pertaining to marriage? Not by any stretch of the imagination! What we are is experienced. We have learned many … Continue reading

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Every Marriage Deals With It

How much do you think deeply about the things that matter most? One thing required to think deeply is choosing to slow down. Thoughts are like timid animals–you must be still in order for them to make themselves fully known. … Continue reading

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A Dozen Valentine Ideas 4 U

Valentine’s Day. Many people roll their eyes just thinking of it. You may think it hokey. You may think it a gimmick instigated by the card and chocolate industries to get you to part with your money. But what if … Continue reading

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National Marriage Week 2019

Today marks the beginning of a seven-day focus on the importance of marriage in our nation. As marriage bloggers for the past decade, it has been our passion to sound this call every week, not just one week a year … Continue reading

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Seven Romantic Quotes From (Can You Guess?)

When Tom and I first started dating he lived two and half hours away from me. Long-distance phone calls were very expensive inside the state, so we wrote each other often. We spent one anniversary reading through them, and it … Continue reading

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It’s That Time Again – Are You In?

Are you up for a challenge? It will require you to put on fresh eyes to see something familiar in a new way. Still interested? If you are at home do the following: 1. Get up and walk into your … Continue reading

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