Marriage isn’t always what we pictured on our wedding day. Some seasons feel more like dry, cracked ground—where misunderstandings pile up, hearts grow distant, and love feels like a duty, not a delight.

I’ve been there. And if you’re honest, maybe you have too.

But here’s the truth I’ve learned:

Fighting for your marriage when love feels hard isn’t about trying harder—it’s about surrendering deeper.

Love Was Never Meant to Be Fueled by Feelings Alone

Feelings come and go. God designed marriage to be rooted in covenant, not convenience. When emotions fade, it doesn’t mean the love is gone—it means it’s time to lean on something (or Someone) stronger than ourselves.

“We love because He first loved us.” —1 John 4:19

Prayer: The Quiet Battle That Changes Everything

There were times I wanted to fix my husband—times I thought if he would just change, things would get better. But God whispered something different:

“Let Me change you first.”

When I started praying—not just for him, but for my own heart—something shifted. Resentment softened. Hope returned. And slowly, love rekindled.

Simple Prayer to Start:

“Lord, teach me to love my spouse the way You love me. Heal what’s hurting, soften what’s hard, and help me fight for us with Your strength.”

You Are Not Alone in This Fight

The enemy wants you to believe you’re the only one struggling. You’re not. Every lasting marriage walks through hard seasons. But the ones that survive—and even thrive—are the ones where at least one spouse says,

“I won’t give up.”

And often, that one spouse becomes the spark God uses to breathe life back into the marriage.

Take One Small Step Today

Pray before you speak.

Speak one kind word.

Ask God to bless your spouse.

Choose forgiveness, even if it’s silent.

Small steps make big changes over time.

If you’re in a hard place, don’t lose heart. The same God who turned water into wine can revive love where it feels dry. Keep fighting—not with harsh words, but with a surrendered heart.

You’re not fighting alone. And the harvest of love is worth it.

“Let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.” —Galatians 6:9

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Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️