While in Canada we noticed something quite unusual and it made us happy and sad; the Canadian drivers are incredibly polite.

For example, Tom needed to get over a lane but there were a lot of cars. He put on his blinker without hope of getting over in time. Then, the unthinkable happened! The driver in the left lane stepped on his brake to let us over.

This happened repeatedly to where we couldn’t help but notice. Kudos to Canada for promoting such kindness!

It made us sad to realize how tourists must feel when they encounter drivers in Florida. What has happened in our state to make drivers so rude?

I saw a meme that said “It’s better to be kind, than to be happy.” This is true because being kind focuses on others; being happy focuses on me.

Of course happiness is important, but not at the expense of others. We must consider others more important than ourselves.

In marriage this is no different.

I’ve known couples where one spouse plans all the fun things they want to do without considering if their spouse is okay with it; e.g. stop after work and have a drink with the boys or go out for dinner with friends and tell your spouse rather than ask them.

This is rude at best and selfish at worst.

Selfishness is hard-wired into our brain since the fall of man in the Garden of Eden. It is our default, so if we don’t purpose to be kind, we will end up being selfish in one way or another.

Ask your spouse if they ever feel you are being selfish or inconsiderate. Then listen to what they say and take it seriously. Probably no one knows you better than your spouse and they are good at being honest with such questions.

“Better are the wounds of a friend, than the kisses of an enemy.” Proverbs 27:6

Your spouse should be your best and closest friend. Let them share how they see you in regard to kindness vs. selfishness. But be prepared for their honest observations.

Finally, I am purposing to be kind on the road. Today I was letting a car pull in front of me, but they weren’t paying attention. They expected to have to wait a long time, given the amount of traffic on the road, and missed my kind offer.

This won’t deter me. Will you join me?

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We are grateful you are here. It means you believe your marriage matters; and it does! We pray our posts bring needed encouragement, inspiration and tweaking as needed. Marriage isn’t easy, but it’s worth the effort.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️