This past weekend we had lots of family over, in fact our daughter and her two small children spent the night with us. It was a fun weekend, but how we were reminded of the difficulty to find time for each other in the midst of such loving chaos! We were happily exhausted!
Maybe you’re in this season of raising small children; a great date night to you is going away where it is quiet to say nothing at all. Or maybe you’re both not on the same page – the wife is exhausted and the husband is ready to go – or vice versa. What does romance look like in the midst of such busyness? The answer is simply – be flexible and hold expectations loosely.
First, being flexible is being willing to set aside previously made plans to do something else that works better with the time or energy available. How flexible are you when plans change at the last moment? If this is something that would normally cause a conflict, why not pray and ask God to help you change? Flexibility means you’re responsive to change and adaptable. What a gift it is to have a spouse who works with you when plans change rather than challenges the changes.
Secondly, hold all expectations loosely. As much as I anticipate our weekly date nights, I realize anything could happen to change our plans. Headaches, work demands, sick children…the list goes on and on. We mustn’t take these changes personally as if our spouse doesn’t want to be with us. Remember we have a lifetime to love and romance each other. If one night gets changed – it’s only one night.