We came across this quote that is in true C.S. Lewis form. Are you growing in your ability to swim or are you longing for the thrills you had paddling as a boy?
“People get from books the idea that if you have married the right person you may expect to go on ‘being in love’ forever. As a result, when they find they are not [which they judge mainly by the feelings], they think this proves they have made a mistake and are entitled to a change – not realising that, when they have changed, the glamour will presently go out of the new love just as it went out of the old one… Let the thrill go – let it die away – go on through that period of death into the quieter interest and happiness that follow – and you will find that you live in a world of new thrills all the time [the true love kind]. But if you decide to make thrills your regular diet and try to prolong them artificially, they will get weaker and weaker, and fewer and fewer, and you will be a bored, disillusioned old man for the rest of your life… It is much better fun to learn how to swim than to go on endlessly (and hopelessly) trying to get back the feeling you had when you first went paddling as a boy.”
C. S. Lewis, Unknown