Unmet Expectations

“It’s the most wonderful time of the year…” or so the song goes.  But is it really?  I have found often times this time of year is full of trouble – the kind that is unavoidable, which leads to a wealth of temptations to self-pity and sadness.  Unmet Expectations for a perfect Christmas season can set us up for great disappointments.

I have talked with numerous couples going through large problems – financial, relational and physical.  It’s the kind of difficulty that can’t be pushed aside.  It follows you wherever you go.

We can be tempted to forego a regular date night simply because we don’t feel up to it.  This reveals a misunderstanding of what it means to have a date.  As husband and wife it’s important to have time alone to reconnect about all of the issues of life.  Sometimes it’s all good and sometimes it’s quite challenging.  If your Christmas is leaving much to be desired this year, try lifting your eyes above the trouble and remember the trouble Christ endured to bring us freedom from our self-pity and sadness.  Christmas is about redemption – God becoming man to set us free to love Him and others more than ourselves.

Maybe you’re not going to get the one gift at the top of your list.  Maybe you won’t get to enjoy a romantic stroll through brightly lit parks while carolers serenade your way due to the sickness or schedule of your spouse.  In either case our unmet expectations can be a great opportunity to experience the true meaning of Christmas – love, true love that leads to repentance.

It is the most wonderful time of year because we remember the One around whom our lives revolve.  It’s all about Him.  He is Emmanuel – God with us  – God with you!

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