A Fragrant Aroma: Playing Defense

Not being a huge sports fan, it’s funny that the Lord brought this metaphor to my mind.  I know it was Him, because I wouldn’t even think in these terms, but sadly I’ve been living them.  Maybe you will relate.

Just returning from vacation, (on a cruise ship – no less) let’s suffice it to say I added a few extra pounds of cargo I didn’t have when I left; and I’m not talking about suitcases here!!  I knew when I got home I’d have to start some serious cut backs in my diet, so I mentioned my goal to Tom.  His response was typical for him, as was my response back to him for me!  Here is our dialogue:

[Me]:  I can’t believe I’ve gained _____ lbs. since we’ve been gone. (Hoping for a bit of sympathy).

[Tom]:  Yeah, I have gained some too.  What you really need is to exercise to get your metabolism going.  That’s how you’ll lose the weight.

(Somewhere in his two sentences above I became defensive – note the football term!)

[Me]:  Well, you need to exercise too!  (even though I knew he had been exercising all during our vacation.)

[Tom]:  You’re right.  I do, that’s why I’m suggesting it – for both of us.  (Can you see who’s being the better player here?)

[Me]:  SILENCE.  (because I know he’s right.  He’s made a touchdown right in the heart of what I needed to hear.)

So football camp began for me yesterday, and I am very sore.  Part of me didn’t want to tell Tom I had actually exercised yesterday.  That would be like telling the opposing quarterback your defensive play.  Ah, but Tom and I are on the same team!  If I listen carefully to him, I’m sure to win – or in this case, lose; the weight that is!

We’re going to have to huddle up tonight so I can apologize appropriately for being defensive when all he was suggesting is I play the offensive instead.  Besides, you can only score when the ball is in your possession, right?  Tom was simply handing me the ball – it’s up to me whether or not I take it and run!

In what ways do you play the defensive line in your relationship?  What are the touchy subjects you avoid discussing?

About Debi Walter

Tom and Debi have been sharing encouragements through their blogs for many years. Marriage, Reading God's Word and documenting family history is our focus. Growing in our relationship with the Lord is primary in all we say, write or do. We are grateful for all who desire to join us in the same endeavors.
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