Not being a huge sports fan, it’s funny that the Lord brought this metaphor to my mind. I know it was Him, because I wouldn’t even think in these terms, but sadly I’ve been living them. Maybe you will relate.
Just returning from vacation, (on a cruise ship – no less) let’s suffice it to say I added a few extra pounds of cargo I didn’t have when I left; and I’m not talking about suitcases here!! I knew when I got home I’d have to start some serious cut backs in my diet, so I mentioned my goal to Tom. His response was typical for him, as was my response back to him for me! Here is our dialogue:
[Me]: I can’t believe I’ve gained _____ lbs. since we’ve been gone. (Hoping for a bit of sympathy).
[Tom]: Yeah, I have gained some too. What you really need is to exercise to get your metabolism going. That’s how you’ll lose the weight.
(Somewhere in his two sentences above I became defensive – note the football term!)
[Me]: Well, you need to exercise too! (even though I knew he had been exercising all during our vacation.)
[Tom]: You’re right. I do, that’s why I’m suggesting it – for both of us. (Can you see who’s being the better player here?)
[Me]: SILENCE. (because I know he’s right. He’s made a touchdown right in the heart of what I needed to hear.)
So football camp began for me yesterday, and I am very sore. Part of me didn’t want to tell Tom I had actually exercised yesterday. That would be like telling the opposing quarterback your defensive play. Ah, but Tom and I are on the same team! If I listen carefully to him, I’m sure to win – or in this case, lose; the weight that is!
We’re going to have to huddle up tonight so I can apologize appropriately for being defensive when all he was suggesting is I play the offensive instead. Besides, you can only score when the ball is in your possession, right? Tom was simply handing me the ball – it’s up to me whether or not I take it and run!
In what ways do you play the defensive line in your relationship? What are the touchy subjects you avoid discussing?