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Our lives are full of milestones.  What exactly is a milestone?

  1. A stone marker set up on a roadside to indicate the distance in miles from a given point.
  2. An important event, as in a person’s career, the history of a nation, or the advancement of knowledge in a field; a turning point.

We’ve had many in our 32 years of marriage.  But there are some we will never forget.

  • The birth of our three children
  • Buying our first home
  • Buying our family business
  • Selling our family business
  • Graduations
  • Marriages
  • Becoming grandparents

These are etched in our minds like memorial stones.  Whenever we pass by them in our memory we pause and offer thanks to God for what He has done!

A few days before our daughter’s wedding I wrote an essay as a milestone. It is a place I can return to again and again to remember what God has done.  It is especially fitting this week, as I am once again counting down the days.  This time it is for our daughter’s move to Georgia with her husband and two small children.  She will be leaving our hometown in two weeks, and I am tempted, oh so tempted to be sad and discouraged.

But God has reminded me through this essay what He has done, which gives me hope for what He will do.  What milestones have you faced lately?  Are you encouraged or discouraged?  Talking about it with your spouse will help you answer these questions honestly.  Then praying about it together will provide the hope you need to continue moving forward, past this milestone to another one that is sure to come!  Because our God is faithful and He has promised to complete the work He’s begun.  It just might not look like we expected.

The Day, by Debi Walter

May 2005

I woke this morning feeling the weight of time.  As the days dwindle down until “The Day” is here, I am realizing how small I am, and I am tempted to fear.  Tomorrow is uncertain; I have no guarantees.  Yet, look at how God is faithful – always so faithful to me.  I am happy, and I am sad.  The regrets crowd my thoughts of what could have been, although I have more confidence in what God has done than in what I did not do.  This is the strength that brings me joy.  It upholds me when I want to fall.  And it makes me smile, when the tears build in my eyes.

Yes, my daughter is getting married in nine days!  Nine days!!  When she was born 10 days late, how well I remember that 9th day waiting for her to arrive.  Now it all seems surreal – that in nine days I will let her go, and she will become a Mrs. in her own right.  There are no epidurals that can numb this pain.  It is deep, yet rewarding, like the birth of a child.  For 21 years she has been my focus and daily concern.  I have prayed that she would make right choices and follow hard after God.  I have prayed for her husband for years – who now has a name and a face.  I am delighted at how good God has been to me, and most of all how good He has been to her.

First a baby, then a toddler, we taught her everything she knew.  Next it was home schooling that became our passion, and the preteen years kept us busier than we ever expected.  In high school we cheered at every ball game, and we were there for each milestone of her young life.   Praying, always praying for God to form in her the likeness of His Son.

I will soon walk down the aisle escorted by my son, as Mother of the Bride.  I will look into the faces of all our friends and family gathered to celebrate with us, and for a moment will realize with deep gratitude the influence they have had on my little girl’s life.  If it weren’t for the church functioning in our lives the way God intended, I wouldn’t be walking with my son at this moment.  It will be a walk of triumph, not in my accomplishments, but in God’s faithfulness.

Then, the music will stop.  The candles will flicker.  Everyone will rise and turn as my husband of 26 years, who I love more than I ever thought possible, will begin his final walk with her at his side.  Such a godly man!  He has led her for 21 years.  He has been her hero and the one who has shown her by example what a Biblical husband looks like.  He has guarded her heart diligently, and his moment to give her away to another awaits him at the end of this walk.

My daughter has grown into a beautiful woman of God!  On this day there will certainly be tears, but they will be tears of rejoicing in what God has done, and tears full of great hope for the future.

My life isn’t over by any means; I am just finished with one chapter, a chapter I loved so much.   Like finishing a book brings great satisfaction in seeing how all the events come together; I am in awe of how perfectly God has led her to this moment.  He is the One I celebrate as I count down the days to “The Day”.

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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2 Responses to Milestones

  1. Sharon O says:

    What a beautiful writing. One that your daughter will cherish for years to come. I love the milestone concept. We all have them in our journey called life.


    • Debi Walter says:

      Yes, we do all have them. It is good to live today wondering what milestones we are making that we’ll look back on tomorrow. Thanks, Sharon!


      PS How’s your husband doing?


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