So, Where’s Your Focus?

Photo Credit: Jeroen van Oostrom

Debi’s post yesterday touched on having spiritual myopia – that is being near-sighted to where we miss seeing what’s most important.

Have you ever taken a picture where the camera failed to focus on the what you wanted it to focus on? The camera missed what was most important and focused on what wasn’t.

Too often our focus can be inward – on our needs, our wants, our love, our life. Someone reading our blog for the first time may walk away thinking our focus is always on us, and that this is what makes us happy and our marriage strong.

But they would be wrong.

A healthy marriage comes from dealing with issues as they arise, and instead of looking inward for the solution, we look upward for wisdom and outward for help when needed.

Date nights are important. Spending quality time together is important too. But put a couple together doing something for someone else and you’ll see a marriage full of joy that is contagious. A healthy marriage grows by doing things together to help others.

There are many ways to serve together – in your local church, for an elderly neighbor, on a mission trip, or at a charity event. The list could go on. You could even give your lives away to help other marriages, by mentoring with a younger couple and helping them overcome the obstacles all new marriages face.

A strong marriage must focus on something that is bigger than ourselves. And guys – I strongly urge you to take the lead in making the necessary changes. Start by focusing on God in prayer and in reading His Word separately AND together. Wisdom comes from God and only He knows what He wants you to do and accomplish in this lifetime as husband and wife.

Living this way takes away our myopic vision and replaces it with an eternal perspective, doing something together that will last forever.

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4 Responses to So, Where’s Your Focus?

  1. judy says:

    Until you actually experience a strong Christian marriage you don’t actually understand how liberating it can be. It needs nurturing of course, all relationships do but knowing God is personally involved is awesome.


    • Debi Walter says:

      You are so right. Christian marriages are the best there are because of the freedom from self Christ provides. And to think that He care enough to be involved in our relationship is the best!
      Merry Christmas,


  2. Tom – Well said, especially calling on men to take the lead. Blessing others together is always a great blessing for a couple.



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