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Tag Archives: marriage
Growth Through Heartache
I referred to it in our last post. Today I want to share the story that took our marriage from the honeymoon stage to the next level of intimacy–growth through heartache. Tom and I wanted children. We had decided on … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages, Newlyweds, Parenting, Seasons of Life
Tagged heartache, Lasting Love, marriage, Miscarriage
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Goodbye 2020 – You Won’t Be Missed, But You’ll Never Be Forgotten
This year is about to slip away at the stroke of midnight. In one second’s time 2020 will be gone, but it will be a year we will never forget. It will be taught in the history books of our … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Holidays, humor, New Year's Eve
Tagged 2020, Funny Quotes, Goodbye 2020, marriage, New Year's Ideas, Romance
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How Advent Informs Our Marriage with Peace
Peace. We all long for peace. But peace isn’t what many of us expect. It isn’t silence or a lack of any thing that irritates or troubles us. This is one of our favorite scenes from the movie, What About … Continue reading
No Tricks—All Treats This Halloween
I’ve started to write a post several times and my mind goes blank. Life has been unpredictable this year, and it keeps coming at us. Our youngest daughter gave birth to her first baby at 24 weeks and 5 days … Continue reading
Unexpected Expectations
Have you ever been caught off guard by unrealistic or unfair expectation of your spouse? Have you ever been surprised that you even had expectations? I have, sadly, and I regret what I put Tom through. Thankfully I have a … Continue reading
Posted in Birthdays, Celebration Dates, Celebrations, Christian Marriage, Keeping It Real
Tagged Birthdays, disappointments, Keeping It Real, marriage
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“Let’s Be” These 8 Things Towards Our Spouse
How are you doing in the area of kindness towards your spouse? These have been trying times for everyone and none are affected more by our discontent than our spouse. I have noticed this in my own heart, which has … Continue reading
Dealing with Conflict in Marriage
This post was originally published on our church’s website. We want to share it here as well. It is unavoidable in marriage. How we deal with conflict makes all the difference in how healthy and strong our marriage becomes. There … Continue reading
Vintage Post – Stirring The Embersi
(Originally posted on June 22, 2009) Flirting can be a sinful way for singles to draw attention to themselves with the opposite sex. We are warned repeatedly in scripture not to practice such things! However, if you’re married – have … Continue reading
Posted in Boredom, Growing Strong Marriages, Romance in Marriage
Tagged Flirting with your spouse, marriage
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Decluttering Discovery
As we’ve mentioned we are decluttering our house. Every closet, every drawer, every cabinet is being organized and it feels amazing. If clutter were measured in pounds I think we’ve lost at least 100 pounds. Yes! I must tell you, … Continue reading
Twisted Words
Have you ever said something to your spouse and the reaction they gave was unexpected? You realize that they didn’t hear what you said in the way you meant them too. A miscommunication is hanging in the air and you … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Humility, Instincts, marriage, Patience, Twisted Words
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Physical Intimacy – Unwrap Yourself
One of the best gifts you can give your spouse is yourself. As Gary Thomas says often, “Your wife is your Eve–the only woman in the world created by God for you. In the same way, your husband is your … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Christmas, Holidays, Intimacy, Physical, Sexual Intimacy
Tagged Christmas, marriage, Sexual intimacy
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Intimacy In Marriage: Our Poll Results
It’s been three months since we asked you to take a poll letting us know one or two areas where your marriage is most in need. We had a great response, thank you! Our Current Need For Marriage Help poll … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Emotional, Growing Strong Marriages, Intimacy
Tagged Intimacy, marriage, Physical intimacy
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Near Miss
Sometimes we have a near miss and don’t even realize it, but not this time. This time I happened to be looking out our window at 35,000′ when a Southwest Jet flew by our window going in the opposite direction. … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, Conflict
Tagged 35000’, marriage, Near Miss, safety features
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Choices and Voices
Choices. We make them everyday, all day long! What motivates the choices we make? Now that’s a question worth considering. Today Tom and I had another one of those moments that we don’t like. It was not that big a … Continue reading
The Best Thing You Can Do To Make Your Marriage Better Right Now
How is your marriage? Are you experiencing what we call a high-high? Or a low-low? Maybe you find your marriage somewhere in between. Wherever your marriage currently lies, the best thing you can do has nothing to do with the … Continue reading
Are You Hunkered Down?
We have been watching the weather forecast for Northwestern North Carolina. They are predicting a huge winter storm to hit the area this weekend. We have friends who are taking their family to our cabin for a week, and they … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Conflict t in Marriage, Healthy Marriage, Hunkered Down, marriage, Winter Storms
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2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter “U”
It’s been a while since we’ve posted about our date challenge. That’s due to the fact that the two letters for October were a “challenge” to plan. I had an unexpected trip to GA to help our youngest daughter who … Continue reading
Posted in 2018 Date Night Challenge, Christian Marriage, Date Night Ideas
Tagged marriage, pondering life, unplugged
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Erasing Your Spouse
Have you ever shared something with your spouse and realized they hadn’t heard a word you said? Either they were distracted by their gadgets or the TV, but it was obvious they weren’t listening to you. If we’re honest we … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Priorities
Tagged Being intentional, communication, Don’t be an eraser, marriage
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My Marriage Is Mediocre—Now What?
In our last post we shared 11 possible indicators your marriage might be mediocre. Today we want to offer some practical tips to help get you out of this trap. As a reminder here is our list: Your life revolves … Continue reading