We have been following the quest of one husband to change the way he loves his wife. His goal is to show her 365 acts of love without her knowing of his quest. He documents what he does on a blog aptly named, 365 Acts of Love. At the end of the 365 days he plans to give her the blog as a gift, and most likely she’ll have a husband who has grown more in his love for God and his love for her. We’ve already seen the transformation taking place. It has been exciting to watch.
He asked if he could interview us for one of his posts. We were humbled at his request, and today he is featuring our interview on his blog.
For “my” 174th act of love for you, I interviewed Tom and Debi Walter from The Romantic Vineyard (an incredible marriage blog) about marriage. The thoughtfulness, sincerity, and downright usefulness of their answers really amazed me. Thanks, Tom and Debi! You’ve given my wife and me a tremendous gift. And keep up the great work on your blog.
(1) How important to your marriage is your relationship with God?
Our relationship with God is primary. He is the only reason our marriage works, because we are only able to love because He first loved us.
(2) What do you do to grow in God together?
We talk about our church’s sermons each week. We have our personal devotions each morning separately, but we’re reading the same Bible-reading plan. We’ve done this for the past few years, and what a difference it has made in our spiritual intimacy. We can talk about what we’re currently reading and we’re working to apply it to our life.
(3) What does commitment look like in your marriage?
Commitment is doing what you know you ought to do whether you feel like it or not. Commitment is loving your spouse when they aren’t so lovable. Commitment is outdoing one another in showing acts of kindness to each other. Commitment is living your marriage vows with no option of divorce. Tom told me when we first were married that divorce would never be an option for us. We would have to work on any problems we faced—that’s commitment!
(4) What’s the key to a happy marriage? A loving marriage? A lifelong marriage?…continue reading.