What’s Your Filter?


I love taking photographs of anything and everything. I drive Tom crazy because I like taking pictures of what we’re eating as well, and he has to wait while his food gets cold.  I like to think of myself as a photo journalist–capturing moments of our life with the camera. 🙂

One of my favorite apps on my smart phone is Instagram. It allows me to filter pictures and give them a completely different look. Basically, it alters reality to make it look prettier, brighter, more ominous or blurred. Whatever it is that strikes my fancy.

Look at the following photo I took while we were in Beech Mountain, NC.

photo-207What kind of day does it look like to you? What emotions come to mind? Gloomy. Sad. Discouraged. Cold. Scary. Winter. These are the words I thought of.

You would be surprised to see what the day really looked like. It wasn’t like this at all! The filter I used in Instagram allowed me to take a perfectly beautiful day and make it look quite the opposite. A filter is a powerful tool for the photographer. It makes your options limitless.

This made me think of life and our marriage.

Our reality is processed in our heart and mind based on the filter we’re using. And this determines the response we’ll have with our current situation.

If you have a filter which causes you to see the negative side of life, then no matter how good things are, you will always see the bad. I have known people like this, and they aren’t much fun to be around. I call it the “Eeyore Syndrome”.

If you have a rose-tinted filter, you may always see the good and avoid all conflict. You tend to sing even when those around you are suffering. Those who view life in this way rarely encourage and empathize with those who are broken. It’s as if their pain will pop their false bubble of happiness. It’s good to have faith for the future, but we mustn’t allow our faith to keep us from entering into the pain of others and helping them by simply listening with a heart of love.

The best filter to have in place is the filter of grace.

When you see your life and struggles in light of the grace of God you’ve been given, it helps take even the most dreary of circumstances and see the good. It may be hidden way back in the back of the photo, but you know the good is hidden in there somewhere waiting to be discovered. This grace will take your best days and remind you that it is a gift from God and not your own doing. Those who view life with this filter, see the reality, trust God with the trouble and thank Him for the good. It is the best way to live.

How are you viewing your marriage? Do you see all the bad and none of the good? Do your accept only the good and ignore the bad? Or do you balance them both by trusting in God’s grace to lead you no matter how the picture in your life develops. God is at work in the midst of our black and white days and the One who should receive the credit when our days are brighter and better.

Are you curious as to how that day on Beech Mountain really was? Here’s the original photograph:


As you can see it was a picture perfect day!

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About Debi Walter

Tom and Debi have been sharing encouragements through their blogs for many years. Marriage, Reading God's Word and documenting family history is our focus. Growing in our relationship with the Lord is primary in all we say, write or do. We are grateful for all who desire to join us in the same endeavors.
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4 Responses to What’s Your Filter?

  1. Sharon O says:

    I love this concept. We we first got married I was coming from a disjointed non verbal home. With some abuse mingled in it, and I also had a dad who left at age four, so I was often seeing life through the filter of ‘you are not staying long and you really don’t care’. Which makes a new marriage rather challenging.
    We have worked through all that, and I have worked hard in therapy understanding the filters I came into the relationship with. We have been married 39 years and still working on it.
    Filters are critical in any relationship. THANK you for bringing this up.


    • Debi Walter says:

      Wow, Sharon. What a testimony you are to God’s grace and a husband’s love. Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life. I pray it will help others who haven’t removed their filters.


  2. Julie Sibert says:

    I love, love, love this post. Yes, “The best filter to have in place is the filter of grace.” So true. Oh my goodness… don’t we get so many opportunities to extend and receive grace in the journey of marriage?!!


    • Debi Walter says:

      Yes, I believe we get daily opportunities to “breathe grace” to our spouse. This is why we must cling to Christ to remind us to do this. Apart from Him I would never choose the filter of grace. Thanks for your encouraging comment. 🙂


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