I’m used to it after 34 years together. We’ve painted countless numbers of walls together, and Tom never thinks the color is right. I’ll hear him say over and over, “Are you sure this color is good?” or “Do you really like it?”
In the beginning those questions would make me nervous, causing me to doubt my choice of color. Now I can say with confidence, “Just wait until you’re finished. You’re going to love it!” And he always does!
So, a couple of days ago when Tom compared our cabin master bathroom color (light brown) to something you do in the bathroom, I didn’t flinch. Today he asked if our upstairs bathroom looked like baby poop! “No,” I laughed out loud. “You’re going to love the color (moss green), just wait and see.”
Now he’s prepping the staircase going to the basement. Thankfully, he’s using primer, so I have a few minutes to write this post. 🙂
This project has made me realize once again how much we need each other. I can’t do half the work he can do in a day, and I certainly can’t do it as well–Tom’s a perfectionist (in a good way) when it comes to painting. And Tom needs me to infuse confidence into everything he does. We make a great team. Although I didn’t always see it this way.
In what ways do you and your spouse complement each other when you’re working together? Do you see your differences as a help or a hindrance?
Our differences at times are very frustrating but in the long big picture they do compliment each other and as we help each other we see that is works. I think if we were too much alike we would be in worse trouble. Being different is a blessing.
It has taken us years to value our differences. I believe those who don’t, miss one of the most valuable aspects of marriage! It’s good to keep the “big picture” view!
Good to hear from you!
When two become as one, we actually become three. Who each of us are as individuals and the collective “one” that God has joined us to become. If we battle to keep our individual selves we can never fully grow into the one that God intended us to be. We also can actually stunt the growth of our individual selves. Only when we “submit to one another out of reverence to Christ” can we grow into the “one” that we are meant to be. In turn, that growth also allows our individual natures to grow more like Christ.
Dan – You’re exactly right! We love your point that allowing our marriage to become one in Him actually helps us become the best individual we can be. If more couples realized this, there would be fewer divorces! Thanks for adding your excellent comment!
Tom and Debi
Aw! That’s awesome! I miss home projects with a partner, makes it so much more fun and exciting workig together. Loove how y’all’s marriage is Christ centered and always brought back to the work of the cross in your individual lives and life as one, even while painting and doing remodeling projects! 🙂
I’m so grateful to God for your encouragement! Always brightens my day! Love you and your kiddos bunches!