We recently had lunch with some friends who shared with us a tradition the wife had grown up doing at the dinner table. It was really quite simple. Her dad would say, Tell me the good, and everyone at the table had to take turns telling him the good they saw in the others seated at the table. This wise father usually asked this question when he noticed the sour attitudes of his children, and it immediately changed the atmosphere from critical to grateful.
We thought this would be a good idea to try with your spouse. What if the next time you were feeling the weight of your circumstances you were to say, Tell me the good! Then take turns recounting the good things God has done or is doing in your life and marriage. How would this change your perspective? We think it’s worth a try.
Let us know how it goes.