If I were to ask you, “Who do you influence the most in your life? In your marriage?” Would you have a quick answer? I believe it would do us well to consider the answer for knowing WHOM we influence will enable us to consider HOW we are influencing as well.

I shared about our recent “I” date where we went to see, I Can Only Imagine. In the movie Bart Millard finally shares his story of the negative influence his parents, especially his dad, had on his young life. He spent years trying to drown out his voice, but nothing he did worked. He needed Someone with greater influence than his father’s to help him overcome the damage his father’s abuse caused. That Someone was and is Jesus. Not only did Jesus change his life for the good, but the good had an overflow impact on the very man who caused his trouble.

It’s good to remember how much Christ has done for us and our marriage.

Recount the many blessings and lessons learned over the years. By His grace we are not the same as we once were. We are being changed day after day into more of His likeness. It is miraculous.

The spill-over effect is that all who know us are influenced either for good or for bad. This includes:

• Children
• Parents
• Siblings
• Friends
• Co-Workers
• Facebook friends

Actually, we are influencing everyone with whom we come in contact.

First impressions can be hard to change. We must be aware of everyone God is bringing into our lives either for a season or for the res of our lives.

What a privilege it is to be an influencer. Realizing this helps us make the most of the message our lives, our marriages are speaking.