It’s The Little Things

What little things makes your spouse feel loved and cherished? If you don’t know, do all you can to find out. It’s often the little things that mean the most.

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If I wake up before Tom, one of the ways I enjoy showing him my love and care is to get his coffee ready to brew. If I hear him stirring in the bedroom I’ll even press the brew button so that his coffee is ready for him when he appears.

This doesn’t take much effort on my part, but it speaks volumes to him.

  • First, it lets him know I was thinking of him.
  • Second, He sees that I was willing to put aside my routine to do something special for him.
  • Third, He realizes how well I know him–listening for him to wake up, and taking the steps to make his favorite morning beverage.

Little things don’t take much effort, but it requires an intentionality to see the opportunity when it arises.

There are lots of other little ways to show my love for him. And what works for my husband may not work for yours. Gary Thomas in his excellent book, Cherish, calls this “cherishing your unique spouse.”

Cherishing each other requires dealing with a real, particular spouse and is fueled by the spouse’s uniqueness. If two-carat diamonds were as common as sand on a seashore, none of them would be cherished. But the fact that something is different makes it precious. That’s why we cherish it—it’s one of a kind. Your spouse is unique, special—and for them to feel cherished, they need to be treated as such.

We each have a unique spouse with likes and preferences unlike anyone else. The wise and loving spouse will spend time getting to know them in an effort to love and bless their uniqueness.

What is one thing you know your spouse enjoys? Do all you can to make this happen for them today. It may not seem like much, but it’s the little things that speak volumes of our love and commitment to make their lives better.


This is our 7th post in the Ultimate Blog Challenge to post everyday in April.


About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 36 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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7 Responses to It’s The Little Things

  1. If you visit Hoover Dam
    when next perchance you travel,
    it sweeps in giant, proud elan
    but it’s sand, cement, and gravel.
    The main and full ingredients may
    be sifted through your hands,
    but add water and some chemistry
    and a mighty structure stands.
    I wonder if life’s this way,
    with small things at the core,
    little things we do and say;
    love makes them so much more!
    And a baby in the Judean night
    given with Love, showed God’s might.

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  2. My post today is along a similar vein as yours… great minds. My husband and I are about to celebrate our 21st anniversary. We do little things for each other out of habit, and love.

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  3. Martha DeMeo says:

    What a great topic! My hubby and I have been married going on 52 years this July. We are always doing little things for each other. The one thing that my hubby does is picks me a rose from our garden (when in bloom) and has it on my computer every morning. I’m like you, I run down and turn the coffee on while he’s in the shower.

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  4. Small acts of kindness and love are the best kinds!

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