I’ve been surprised that I haven’t written more during the quarantine. One would think that a writer writes, and only needs time to do so. And that is true, unless you are practicing this final “let’s be”.
Let’s be present.
In this social media culture even being home 24/7 doesn’t guarantee we’ll be all there. I could easily get lost in my blogging world encouraging marriages all over to do this or that to help their marriages last. But if I’m not tending to my own marriage, eventually I’ll have nothing to offer but a bad example. I pray I’ll never do that. Instead, I’ll let days go by without a post in exchange for a day of golf with Tom, or spending time making an extra special dessert or dinner because food is his love language. You see my absence here usually means I’m present there with Tom.
I rarely go a day without thinking of how to encourage marriages through our blog. But many times my priorities keep me from posting right away. I share this to let you know how important it is to be present mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically with your spouse. Just because we have more time together, doesn’t necessarily mean we’re using this time for our good.
If absence makes the heart grow fonder, imagine what being present can mean?
How has this quarantine helped or hindered you being present with your spouse?
It’s paradoxically interesting that the best way of being present can be more by actions that by ‘presence’. A hard lesson, but, I think, one that holds some savage grace.
I’d so love to be preent;
I know how much it means,
but in these days of hard descent,
I’m best behind the scenes,
for death does not become me,
as in some teleplay,
a man once hale and hearty
turning ashen grey.
So let me give support from here,
out of sight and mind,
where I can love whom I hold dear,
and can thus be kind
in keeping somewhat set apart
to place you over my own heart.
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