I remember a time in our marriage where we rarely prayed aloud together. It wasn’t that we didn’t want to, just that life was often too loud to even think of it. And once we got in the habit it was easy to keep not thinking of it. I say this to our shame. Our need for God every day never changes. This is why He provides new mercies every morning.
One day we were both struggling with some weighty matter. I don’t recall what it was now, but you’ve been there. Feeling backed into a corner and not knowing what to do.
Tom took my hand and said, “Let’s pray.” And he began…
As I listened to his words I was struck with emotion. His heart in prayer was exposed in a way our conversations were never able to reach. He used words and emotions as he cried out to God that I had never heard before. It was a revelation for both of us. We realized our need to pray.
The intimacy reached through prayer together towards God can’t be likened to any other intimacy. It is two hearts connected to the power, love and mercy of God Almighty. When we pray together He hears and He unites our hearts in a beautiful way.
My husband’s relationship with God is different than mine. I have much to learn from him in this regard. And I believe he also learns from me. It’s a give and take of shared connection to our Father.
There was a time when I thought my relationship with God was the way everyone related to God. I soon discovered that God is as unique in relating to each of us as He is unique in creating us. We are individually His—each taking a part that is important and assigned to no one else.
Once we realize this truth, then our main job is to help our spouse be the best they can be in all areas, and especially in the area of relating to God. What a privilege!
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”James 5:16 ESV
Date Night Prompt: Set aside time to pray out loud together. Make a list of the things weighing on both of you and take it to the Lord in prayer. You may even want to record the date you began praying about these particular things and watch how God answers.
Recommended Reading: A Praying Life, by Paul Miller
When was the last time you prayed out loud with your spouse?