Although the title sounds cliche’, there is no greater truth in marriage. Everything we do, think and say should be grounded in kindness.

Words grounded in the soil of kindness bear the fruit of love, joy and peace in your marriage.

It seems the longer we’re married the harder it is to be kind.

If we aren’t mindful of our words, we can easily be lazy and say things without much thought. And if we aren’t thinking before we speak there is danger we will not be kind.

It’s important to note—Kindness is a matter of the heart.

If you often say things with an air of irritation, your spouse may have grown used to it as normal. It’s best to examine our own heart first.

Ask the Lord to give you ears to hear how you’re speaking to your spouse. A tender conscience must be cultivated lest the soil of your heart should grow hard and resistant to change.

As humans our default is to be unkind. We must practice kindness or it will not thrive in our home.

Five examples to practice kindness today:

1. Anticipate what your spouse might need or want in the moment like an afternoon snack or favorite drink.
2. Rub your spouse’s shoulders or feet after a long day.
3. Text them an encouragement midday to let them know you’re thinking of them.
4. Pray for them specifically before they leave for work and tell them about it. Praying aloud is even better.
5. When they call or text answer with a cheerful attitude, rather than a frustrated tone for the interruption.

Today is Monday. Try at least one of these this week and watch how it changes the atmosphere in your relationship.

We thrive on encouragement and wilt without it. Let’s remember, kindness matters.

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Thanks for visiting our vineyard. We pray our posts are helpful and encouraging. May God bless your week as you practice kindness.

Blessings,

Tom and Debi ❤️