Category Archives: Keeping It Real

When Nothing Is Something

I’ve done this more times than I can count. Tom walks in and notices something is bothering me. He asks, “What’s wrong?” To which I reply, “Nothing.” There are two possible reasons I give this answer. I am feeling sad, … Continue reading

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Countering What Annoys You About Your Spouse

Does your spouse have habits that annoy you? If so, what you choose to do with those thoughts makes a huge difference in the growth of your relationship. The following account is told in the Bible about King David. He … Continue reading

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Tale of Two Conversations – The Choice Is Yours

Conversation #1 – Something was weighing on my mind. It was concerning something in our marriage, and I had been dwelling on it long enough to make me discouraged. It grew larger in my thoughts as each day passed. I … Continue reading

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Confessions of a Marriage Blogger

I have a confession to make. As a marriage blogger for the past decade, my husband and I have heard countless ways our blog has been an encouragement to couples. Some we know and some we have yet to meet. … Continue reading

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Three Types of Transition in Marriage

Transition #1 In childbirth it’s the time when birth is eminent. Pain precedes birth bringing joy unimaginable. Imagine if a woman in the throes of labor, decided to quit when the time of transition arrived. Transition is when the labor … Continue reading

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Lessons Learned in 40 Years of Marriage – Part II

Has your spouse ever spoken words to you that had a sting to it? The kind that seemed out of character for them? Oftentimes our feelings override our reason and keep us from bringing the situation to a peaceful resolve. … Continue reading

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Every Marriage Deals With It

How much do you think deeply about the things that matter most? One thing required to think deeply is choosing to slow down. Thoughts are like timid animals–you must be still in order for them to make themselves fully known. … Continue reading

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2019 Is Bringing With It An Unexpected Direction From God

It happened last week. I didn’t see it coming, but God knew all along. Most of you know that Tom and I have a cabin in Banner Elk, NC. You may also know that I have had the privilege of … Continue reading

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Is Your Marriage Like This?

It seems more and more couples are sharing with us the current lack of health in their marriage. We can see the pain and disappointment in their eyes. It grieves us because we know this is not how marriage is … Continue reading

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2018 Date Night Challenge – The Letter “T”

We are a bit behind on our monthly date challenge, but that hasn’t deterred us from pressing on. Tom, who happens to be my favorite “T” planned a special afternoon TEA for me at a local TEA shop. I am … Continue reading

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A Gift to Avoid Drift

For my birthday this year Tom has committed to work out with me at home. He went so far and quit his gym membership too, so I knew he was serious. I am excited for this new chapter in our … Continue reading

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Wake Up Call

This has been a difficult week for our church family. A dear friend and long time member of our church had a massive heart attack last Tuesday morning. They were just enjoying normal life when this crisis hit them unexpectedly. … Continue reading

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Here Comes The Judge

Our pastor preached on Romans 8 this past Sunday. It was a good reminder of the freedom we have in Christ, and an encouragement to no longer live in condemnation. He said something at the end though, that made me … Continue reading

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Happy Hour

Ask Pastor John Is Oral Sex Okay? – John Piper answers this common question for married couples wanting to know. Gary Thomas The Ebb and Flow Of Physical Attraction in Marriage – a good reminder. Intimacy In Marriage Sex Isn’t … Continue reading

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Vintage Post – The De-Masking Of Prince Charming

(Originally posted on June 27, 2012) Each of us on a specific day of a specific year stood before others and exchanged our marriage vows. Most likely we were full of great anticipation of this being our fairy tale come … Continue reading

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Vintage Post – Grace Given Brings Peace

(Originally posted on April, 21, 2010) It is late. It has been one of those nights where I am filled with emotions I don’t understand, much less expect my husband to understand.   Yet I try.  I strive to communicate honestly, … Continue reading

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Happy Hour

It’s time to share some of our favorite reads from the past week. Enjoy… Christian Communicators Worldwide 35 Questions for Maturing a Christian Marriage – I happened upon this website with these excellent questions, and each one could lead to … Continue reading

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2018 Date Night Challenge – “F” Date

I had so many grand ideas for this date, but FAIL was not one of them. Once again, I’m sharing our FAILS with you, so you can realize that date nights have to be FLEXIBLE. But I must admit this … Continue reading

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2018 Date Night Challenge – “D” Date

Tom here. It was my turn to plan our next date, the letter “D” Date, and I had come up with a great idea. What I didn’t plan for was the place to be closed for a private event. NO! … Continue reading

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Marriage Is Our Passion

From the day we were married, Tom said that we would spend our lives helping marriages thrive, and he has never wavered from this conviction. We have hosted countless small groups in our home for the sole purpose of building … Continue reading

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