Our daughter-in-love shared something with me I’ve never forgotten. Shortly after her grandmother died, she explained the reason for her long, well-lived life. Her grandmother purposed every day to laugh out loud—not just a chuckle—but the deep belly laugh that makes your cheeks hurt.

What a goal!

It made me question how often Tom and I do this. Life can get busy or boring, depending on your stage in life, making such laughter random.

The next question is how do you make yourself laugh like this?

Some couples excel at laughter because one is a natural comedian. Some couples are more laid back and laughter may or may not be as normal. And yet other couples are stoic and laughter rarely happens.

“A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭17‬:‭22‬ ‭ESV‬‬

Tom and I fall more in the second category, but we’ve gotten better at it.

It’s important to not take yourself so seriously and to be able to laugh at yourself.

I’ve done some really stupid things that provided a great opportunity for a belly laugh. But if I get offended when someone laughs at what I’ve done, a fight can often replace the laughter. I’m grateful through the years we have learned to laugh at the things we do.

For instance, Tom bought me a Smart Watch because I was always setting my phone down in the house and couldn’t find it. I must admit the “locate my phone button” is my favorite feature on this watch.

Well, one day I had misplaced my phone yet again. I was in our room, and I pushed the locate button; it was somewhere behind me. I turned around and looked, but no phone. So I pushed the button again. Now it was on the other side of my room, behind me. What in the world was happening? I pushed the button again and then realized—my phone was in my back pocket!

I immediately cracked up at how duped I was. I couldn’t wait to tell Tom because we all need a good belly laugh and this was a doozy. Even now writing about it makes me laugh.

When was the last time you and your spouse really laughed out loud? If you need help, we suggest looking up Nate Bargatze on You Tube. He is clean and hilarious. It’s a good start. It might help you learn to laugh at yourself, as he does well.

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Welcome to our new followers. It’s a privilege to come alongside and encourage you in your marriage. We all need this because marriage is hard work, but it can also be hilarious.

Blessings and laughter to you both,

Tom and Debi ❤️❤️