We have all experienced those “less than meaningful” date nights. You can usually tell it’s going to be one from the moment you get in the car. It can sound something like this:
“What do you want to do?”
“I don’t know, what do you want to do?”
“Oh, I don’t care…whatever sounds good to you.”
“How about ________?”
“No, I don’t want to do that!”
These are indicators that date nights need to improve not only in priority (that is growing in the importance and purpose of date nights), but in planning them as well.
Some of our best date nights have been when Tom chose a couple of good questions for us to discuss while sharing a cup of coffee and dessert. Asking good questions has not always been a strength in our marriage, but after many dates like the one described above, Tom purposed to grow in learning how to lead us into meaningful conversations. What a difference this has made in our communication skills and the depth of our conversations, not to mention the intimacy we share as a result.
I love talking to Tom – he is my best friend, and this is how God intended marriage to be – a reflection of His love for the church!
We have added a tab above titled, Soil Samples, that offers lots of questions that will help you get started in drawing each other out about things you may not think to talk about on your own. It is our desire to help marriages grow and flourish as we seek to glorify God in how we live.
Helpful Tip: You don’t have to leave your home to have a date night using these questions. Why not plan an “evening in” after the children are asleep? Grab a blanket, brew some hot beverages and sit out under the stars to experiment with a few questions from the list. The fall weather is beautiful this time of year!