Water Into Wine – Proverbs 12

“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts,

but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

Proverbs 12:18

Definition of Rash – Uttered or undertaken with too much haste or too little reflection.

Think about your marriage and the words you choose to use when facing difficulty or conflict.  What are the words you use without thinking? They may be rash and if so, the Bible says they are like sword thrusts!

Have you ever considered your words being as sharp as a sword?  They are.  They can be used like a sword to bring pain and injury.  Or they can be used as a surgeon’s scalpel to help provide healing.

Your words may not produce huge arguments, but if they sting – you can be sure they are causing damage.  It may not be enough to kill, but enough little stings given over a long period of time can certainly take the life out of a relationship.

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What is the answer?  How do we stop giving zingers and offer kind words instead?  If your natural bent is to be harsh or to speak rashly without thinking, it will take more than pure resolve on your part to change. Any sin which has taken hold of our habits must be surrendered to Christ.  Only He can help us stop what we are in the habit of doing and help us say NO to it in the future.

Begin today to ask God to help you think before you speak.  Ask Him to help you use your words to heal and not harm.  And most of all talk to your spouse about your desire to change in this area.  If it is a really serious problem, you may need to ask for another couple to help hold you accountable.  Don’t let another week go by where this sin is allowed to thrive.  You can do this because God is ready and willing to help you say no to rash words and yes to words that heal.

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3 Responses to Water Into Wine – Proverbs 12

  1. A great encouragement, Tom. Thank you.


  2. Gina Lawson says:

    I used to be very defensive in my speach, but with my husbands love and reasurance, I no longer feel defensive and I take more care to think about what I’m saying and the tone in which i’m using. thank you for another reminder x


    • Debi Walter says:

      Your Mark sounds very much like my Tom. I wouldn’t be who I am today if it weren’t for his influence on my life. I suppose this is God’s plan in marriage all along – to help us become more than we could be alone.


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