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Category Archives: communication
Stop Chasing Squirrels
I love watching Tom do those things for which he is passionate, like lead our marriage community group. When someone asks him about their marriage he lights up and never fails to offer wise, biblically-based counsel. And the older he … Continue reading
Vintage Post – The Verbs Of Your Marriage
(Originally posted on August 21, 2014) I love words and how they have power to help us understand our marriage. Most of us don’t give much thought to the words we use and why. But we should. Words reveal. Words … Continue reading
When Nothing Is Something
I’ve done this more times than I can count. Tom walks in and notices something is bothering me. He asks, “What’s wrong?” To which I reply, “Nothing.” There are two possible reasons I give this answer. I am feeling sad, … Continue reading
Engulfed By Emotions Can Be Embarrassing
I have always been emotional. I cry at movies. I cry at weddings. I have even been known to cry at a funeral of someone whom I had never met. I put myself in another’s place and imagine what it … Continue reading
Getting To Know You
A famous song is our post title for today. We did a parody of it at our church a few years ago for a ladies retreat that focused on the seasons of life. This song is one of my favorites … Continue reading
If Your Sheets Could Talk
Yesterday we talked about the challenges all couples face when it comes to money. If resolve isn’t found, it can be the final death blow to a struggling marriage. There is another challenging area in marriage often cited as the … Continue reading
Do You Struggle With This In Your Marriage?
Today is Tax Day in America. It is the day we all must pay our dues to the government whether we like it or not. If they have taken too much from us during the year, it is a time … Continue reading
If My Spouse Would Just…
Photo by Priscilla Du Perez on Unsplash How would you finish this title? “If my spouse would just…” If you have an immediate answer that involves something they need to do to change, it’s likely you have some unresolved conflict … Continue reading
Tale of Two Conversations – The Choice Is Yours
Conversation #1 – Something was weighing on my mind. It was concerning something in our marriage, and I had been dwelling on it long enough to make me discouraged. It grew larger in my thoughts as each day passed. I … Continue reading
Are You an Eraser or a Highlighter?
Erasers are used to take away errors giving an opportunity to do it right. Highlighters are used to emphasize something you don’t want to forget. In marriage we can use both to help or hurt our relationship. How are we … Continue reading
Posted in April 2019, Christian Marriage, communication, Encouraging Your Spouse, Growing Strong Marriages, Perspective in Marriage, The Gospel & Marriage, Ultimate Blog Challenge
Tagged Erasers, Highlighters, Making a strong marriage, Remembering the good, Ultimate Blog Challenge April 2019
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Three Types of Transition in Marriage
Transition #1 In childbirth it’s the time when birth is eminent. Pain precedes birth bringing joy unimaginable. Imagine if a woman in the throes of labor, decided to quit when the time of transition arrived. Transition is when the labor … Continue reading
Cut Off The Fuel That Feeds The Fire
Always be kind. That’s what our parents taught us growing up. “Kindness begets kindness,” they would say. But in the heat of the moment many forget to put their kindness on display. I remember my husband telling me about an … Continue reading
The Necessity Of Light
We have two three-way lamps in our bedroom on either side of our bed. Each light setting provides a different purpose. If I just want to make our room look nice and inviting, I’ll put it on the lower light. … Continue reading
6 Questions To Evaluate The State Of Your Union
It’s January, but more surprising than that–it’s 2019! It seems like yesterday when we were concerned about Y2K. We blink and time flies by at record pace. Yet it stays the same. Seconds turn to minutes. Minutes turn to hours. … Continue reading
Step Up To Greatness
President George H.W. Bush has been honored well in his death by family, friends and even foes. I’m grateful that we, as Americans, haven’t lost our dignity in showing honor to whom honor is due. It has been refreshing to … Continue reading
Are You Hunkered Down?
We have been watching the weather forecast for Northwestern North Carolina. They are predicting a huge winter storm to hit the area this weekend. We have friends who are taking their family to our cabin for a week, and they … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Conflict t in Marriage, Healthy Marriage, Hunkered Down, marriage, Winter Storms
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Erasing Your Spouse
Have you ever shared something with your spouse and realized they hadn’t heard a word you said? Either they were distracted by their gadgets or the TV, but it was obvious they weren’t listening to you. If we’re honest we … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Priorities
Tagged Being intentional, communication, Don’t be an eraser, marriage
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A Closer Look at What Bores You
Living life with the same person becomes familiar as it should over time. But when the familiar becomes boring this can be the sign there is something else at play. Jon Bloom wrote an excellent article on the Desiring God … Continue reading
