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Category Archives: communication
Physical Intimacy – Now That’s A Great Question
How often should sexual intimacy happen in a healthy marriage? I emphasize healthy marriage because troubled marriages have to fix the areas in need of attention before they hope to see improvement in the bedroom. Of course there are exceptions. … Continue reading
Physical Intimacy – Three Aspects of a Healthy Sex Life
Three of the most important aspects of a healthy physical relationship is a willingness to be vulnerable, honest and trustworthy with each other. * Vulnerable Dr. Leman says, “Most men don’t realize, psychologically, how vulnerable a naked woman can feel. … Continue reading
Posted in communication, Growing Strong Marriages, Intimacy, Physical
Tagged Honesty, Physical intimacy, Sexual intimacy, Trustworthy, Vulnerable
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Can I Be Honest?
I recently talked with a wife who said she was finally in a place in their marriage where she could be honest with her husband. They didn’t have a bad marriage. But they had settled and weren’t working to make … Continue reading
Choices and Voices
Choices. We make them everyday, all day long! What motivates the choices we make? Now that’s a question worth considering. Today Tom and I had another one of those moments that we don’t like. It was not that big a … Continue reading
What Are Your Top Two?
We all have areas in our marriage that are in need of attention. What we do with these areas is the defining difference between a healthy marriage and an unhealthy marriage. Having a church community of friends who know and … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Benefits of Church Community, Can We Talk, communication, mentoring
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Five Friday Favorites – Difficult Topics in Marriage
So often in marriage the way the enemy works against us it to make us uncomfortable talking about important topics. The only way to counter this attack is to do the difficult thing and talk about them. We are privileged … Continue reading
Giving God Full Creative Access
Imagine an artist gifted in painting realism who has an accident in the studio. Paint is splashed all over the canvas ruining the piece as they had planned. But is it ruined or just different? Abstract paintings are as beautiful … Continue reading
Stop Chasing Squirrels
I love watching Tom do those things for which he is passionate, like lead our marriage community group. When someone asks him about their marriage he lights up and never fails to offer wise, biblically-based counsel. And the older he … Continue reading
Vintage Post – The Verbs Of Your Marriage
(Originally posted on August 21, 2014) I love words and how they have power to help us understand our marriage. Most of us don’t give much thought to the words we use and why. But we should. Words reveal. Words … Continue reading
When Nothing Is Something
I’ve done this more times than I can count. Tom walks in and notices something is bothering me. He asks, “What’s wrong?” To which I reply, “Nothing.” There are two possible reasons I give this answer. I am feeling sad, … Continue reading
Engulfed By Emotions Can Be Embarrassing
I have always been emotional. I cry at movies. I cry at weddings. I have even been known to cry at a funeral of someone whom I had never met. I put myself in another’s place and imagine what it … Continue reading
Getting To Know You
A famous song is our post title for today. We did a parody of it at our church a few years ago for a ladies retreat that focused on the seasons of life. This song is one of my favorites … Continue reading
If Your Sheets Could Talk
Yesterday we talked about the challenges all couples face when it comes to money. If resolve isn’t found, it can be the final death blow to a struggling marriage. There is another challenging area in marriage often cited as the … Continue reading
Do You Struggle With This In Your Marriage?
Today is Tax Day in America. It is the day we all must pay our dues to the government whether we like it or not. If they have taken too much from us during the year, it is a time … Continue reading
If My Spouse Would Just…
Photo by Priscilla Du Perez on Unsplash How would you finish this title? “If my spouse would just…” If you have an immediate answer that involves something they need to do to change, it’s likely you have some unresolved conflict … Continue reading
Tale of Two Conversations – The Choice Is Yours
Conversation #1 – Something was weighing on my mind. It was concerning something in our marriage, and I had been dwelling on it long enough to make me discouraged. It grew larger in my thoughts as each day passed. I … Continue reading
What’s Your Marriage Forecast?
Weather. We depend on it for so much of our activities. Will we do this or that? It all depends on the weather. No one wants to eat outside when it’s too cold or too hot. Nor do we plan … Continue reading
Are You an Eraser or a Highlighter?
Erasers are used to take away errors giving an opportunity to do it right. Highlighters are used to emphasize something you don’t want to forget. In marriage we can use both to help or hurt our relationship. How are we … Continue reading
Posted in April 2019, Christian Marriage, communication, Encouraging Your Spouse, Growing Strong Marriages, Perspective in Marriage, The Gospel & Marriage, Ultimate Blog Challenge
Tagged Erasers, Highlighters, Making a strong marriage, Remembering the good, Ultimate Blog Challenge April 2019
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Three Types of Transition in Marriage
Transition #1 In childbirth it’s the time when birth is eminent. Pain precedes birth bringing joy unimaginable. Imagine if a woman in the throes of labor, decided to quit when the time of transition arrived. Transition is when the labor … Continue reading
