Category Archives: communication

Five Friday Favorites – Getting To Know You Resources

How well do you know your spouse? How you answer this question depends largely on how long you’ve been together, how well you communicate your preferences, and how intentional you are in studying your spouse. Today’s Friday Favorites are resources … Continue reading

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Getting To Know You

A famous song is our post title for today. We did a parody of it at our church a few years ago for a ladies retreat that focused on the seasons of life. This song is one of my favorites … Continue reading

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If Your Sheets Could Talk

Yesterday we talked about the challenges all couples face when it comes to money. If resolve isn’t found, it can be the final death blow to a struggling marriage. There is another challenging area in marriage often cited as the … Continue reading

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Do You Struggle With This In Your Marriage?

Today is Tax Day in America. It is the day we all must pay our dues to the government whether we like it or not. If they have taken too much from us during the year, it is a time … Continue reading

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If My Spouse Would Just…

Photo by Priscilla Du Perez on Unsplash How would you finish this title? “If my spouse would just…” If you have an immediate answer that involves something they need to do to change, it’s likely you have some unresolved conflict … Continue reading

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Tale of Two Conversations – The Choice Is Yours

Conversation #1 – Something was weighing on my mind. It was concerning something in our marriage, and I had been dwelling on it long enough to make me discouraged. It grew larger in my thoughts as each day passed. I … Continue reading

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Are You an Eraser or a Highlighter?

Erasers are used to take away errors giving an opportunity to do it right. Highlighters are used to emphasize something you don’t want to forget. In marriage we can use both to help or hurt our relationship. How are we … Continue reading

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Three Types of Transition in Marriage

Transition #1 In childbirth it’s the time when birth is eminent. Pain precedes birth bringing joy unimaginable. Imagine if a woman in the throes of labor, decided to quit when the time of transition arrived. Transition is when the labor … Continue reading

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Listen, Ask, Repeat – A Key To Effective Communication

I’ve spent 24 of the last 35 days away from home helping to care for our daughter and her family post-surgery. Tom was with me most of that time. A great benefit of retirement is that what I used to … Continue reading

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Cut Off The Fuel That Feeds The Fire

Always be kind. That’s what our parents taught us growing up. “Kindness begets kindness,” they would say. But in the heat of the moment many forget to put their kindness on display. I remember my husband telling me about an … Continue reading

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The Necessity Of Light

We have two three-way lamps in our bedroom on either side of our bed. Each light setting provides a different purpose. If I just want to make our room look nice and inviting, I’ll put it on the lower light. … Continue reading

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2019 Is Bringing With It An Unexpected Direction From God

It happened last week. I didn’t see it coming, but God knew all along. Most of you know that Tom and I have a cabin in Banner Elk, NC. You may also know that I have had the privilege of … Continue reading

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6 Questions To Evaluate The State Of Your Union

It’s January, but more surprising than that–it’s 2019! It seems like yesterday when we were concerned about Y2K. We blink and time flies by at record pace. Yet it stays the same. Seconds turn to minutes. Minutes turn to hours. … Continue reading

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Step Up To Greatness

President George H.W. Bush has been honored well in his death by family, friends and even foes. I’m grateful that we, as Americans, haven’t lost our dignity in showing honor to whom honor is due. It has been refreshing to … Continue reading

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Are You Hunkered Down?

We have been watching the weather forecast for Northwestern North Carolina. They are predicting a huge winter storm to hit the area this weekend. We have friends who are taking their family to our cabin for a week, and they … Continue reading

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Erasing Your Spouse

Have you ever shared something with your spouse and realized they hadn’t heard a word you said? Either they were distracted by their gadgets or the TV, but it was obvious they weren’t listening to you. If we’re honest we … Continue reading

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A Closer Look at What Bores You

Living life with the same person becomes familiar as it should over time. But when the familiar becomes boring this can be the sign there is something else at play. Jon Bloom wrote an excellent article on the Desiring God … Continue reading

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What Is THE MOST Important Aspect of a Healthy Marriage?

Do you know what the most important aspect of a healthy marriage is? We believe it’s communication. Learn how to talk, listen and respond in a God-glorifying way and your marriage is sure to not only survive, but thrive. We … Continue reading

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In To Me See – An Invitation Reserved For One

“In to me see” is a term our pastor coined for intimacy. If done right we are inviting our spouse to see into our lives in a way no one else does. It is for their eyes, ears and heart … Continue reading

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Overlook Ahead

Have you ever thought about overlooking an offense instead of plunging, head-first into an argument? Consider these scenarios…You spent a lot of time explaining something vey important to your spouse. Then, you realize they weren’t listening to you. You’ve asked … Continue reading

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