Category Archives: communication

Are You Hunkered Down?

We have been watching the weather forecast for Northwestern North Carolina. They are predicting a huge winter storm to hit the area this weekend. We have friends who are taking their family to our cabin for a week, and they … Continue reading

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Erasing Your Spouse

Have you ever shared something with your spouse and realized they hadn’t heard a word you said? Either they were distracted by their gadgets or the TV, but it was obvious they weren’t listening to you. If we’re honest we … Continue reading

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IT HAPPENS!

Today we had our septic tank pumped. It wasn’t long before I was running to close all the windows and fast! The fact that “IT” happens doesn’t make it pleasant or inviting, but it’s necessary. Our day yesterday was similar, … Continue reading

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A Closer Look at What Bores You

Living life with the same person becomes familiar as it should over time. But when the familiar becomes boring this can be the sign there is something else at play. Jon Bloom wrote an excellent article on the Desiring God … Continue reading

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What Is THE MOST Important Aspect of a Healthy Marriage?

Do you know what the most important aspect of a healthy marriage is? We believe it’s communication. Learn how to talk, listen and respond in a God-glorifying way and your marriage is sure to not only survive, but thrive. We … Continue reading

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In To Me See – An Invitation Reserved For One

“In to me see” is a term our pastor coined for intimacy. If done right we are inviting our spouse to see into our lives in a way no one else does. It is for their eyes, ears and heart … Continue reading

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Overlook Ahead

Have you ever thought about overlooking an offense instead of plunging, head-first into an argument? Consider these scenarios…You spent a lot of time explaining something vey important to your spouse. Then, you realize they weren’t listening to you. You’ve asked … Continue reading

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Attributes of a Healthy Marriage – Friendship

This one may seem like a given, but it isn’t. We have encountered far too many couples who after years of marriage have nothing in common. This is a dangerous place to be. We become vulnerable to the wiles of … Continue reading

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Honestly, Honesty is Hard

The title says it all. In our last post we shared that honesty was an attribute of a healthy marriage. We received lots of comments about how difficult this is to do. Billy Joel sings it well… If you search … Continue reading

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Keeping The Home Fires Burning

Tom was two badges shy of becoming an Eagle Scout when he quit, a choice he regrets to this day, yet what he learned during his Boy Scout training is so valuable.  I have benefited from his knowledge and skill … Continue reading

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Old Age Fresh Love

“Come grow old with me. The best is yet to be” is a quote lovers use often to express their devotion. However, when old age is knocking on the door it doesn’t seem to have the same romantic appeal. It is … Continue reading

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“You Are So Beautiful To Me”

Wives, how many of you have heard your husband say this to you? I would imagine most of us would say we have, but do you believe him? Or do you find yourself arguing or rejecting his compliments? You may … Continue reading

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Two Ways To Improve Your Communication In Marriage

Sometimes we hear advice that is familiar so we ignore it even if we aren’t practicing it; It’s called a well-worn path. The Bible calls it not having ears to hear. Ouch! Communication, like baseball, is learned over time with … Continue reading

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Keeping It Real This Christmas–Can You Relate?

My house is a mess. I am decorating for Christmas, but there are demands keeping me from finishing it all at once. Oh sure, I’ve posted photos on Instagram zoomed in where it appears my home is picture perfect, but it’s not. It … Continue reading

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Uncovering 5 Practices Detrimental To Marriage: The Final Two

The last two practices you may or may not realize you’re doing. This is why we want to shine the light on these two together. It happens when we listen to our spouse either with our mind made up based … Continue reading

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Thirsty For Romance – Compared to the Cubs Thirst For The World Series Championship

The Chicago Cubs managed to do the impossible last night, winning the World Series for the first time since 1908! Congratulations! They did what no other team could do in over a century. Quite the accomplishment. We love seeing a … Continue reading

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Uncovering 5 Practices Detrimental To Marriage: Critical Judgments

You begin to share with your spouse about something that is really bothering you. Right as you are pouring your heart out to them, they ask a question about something else, revealing that they haven’t heard a word you’ve said. … Continue reading

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Uncovering 5 Practices Detrimental To Marriage: The Question Behind The Question

Stop signs are there for our protection and the safety of those around us. They help us know when to stop, think, observe, then proceed with caution. Can you imagine a world without STOP signs? Where everyone can proceed full-speed-ahead … Continue reading

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What Diving In A Green Pool Reveals About Marriage

As most of you have probably witnessed the Olympic Divers have had quite an unusual distraction, at least for athletes of their ability. They have had to dive into a murky, green pool. They have had to trust that the … Continue reading

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Ten Things I’ve Learned About Marriage Playing Words With Friends

I have an obsession. I love to play Words With Friends, and I usually have dozens of games going at once. I’m slowly getting better too. My average score has been steadily climbing because I’ve learned lots of new words … Continue reading

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