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Category Archives: communication
The Necessity Of Light
We have two three-way lamps in our bedroom on either side of our bed. Each light setting provides a different purpose. If I just want to make our room look nice and inviting, I’ll put it on the lower light. … Continue reading
6 Questions To Evaluate The State Of Your Union
It’s January, but more surprising than that–it’s 2019! It seems like yesterday when we were concerned about Y2K. We blink and time flies by at record pace. Yet it stays the same. Seconds turn to minutes. Minutes turn to hours. … Continue reading
Step Up To Greatness
President George H.W. Bush has been honored well in his death by family, friends and even foes. I’m grateful that we, as Americans, haven’t lost our dignity in showing honor to whom honor is due. It has been refreshing to … Continue reading
Are You Hunkered Down?
We have been watching the weather forecast for Northwestern North Carolina. They are predicting a huge winter storm to hit the area this weekend. We have friends who are taking their family to our cabin for a week, and they … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Conflict t in Marriage, Healthy Marriage, Hunkered Down, marriage, Winter Storms
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Erasing Your Spouse
Have you ever shared something with your spouse and realized they hadn’t heard a word you said? Either they were distracted by their gadgets or the TV, but it was obvious they weren’t listening to you. If we’re honest we … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Priorities
Tagged Being intentional, communication, Don’t be an eraser, marriage
A Closer Look at What Bores You
Living life with the same person becomes familiar as it should over time. But when the familiar becomes boring this can be the sign there is something else at play. Jon Bloom wrote an excellent article on the Desiring God … Continue reading
What Is THE MOST Important Aspect of a Healthy Marriage?
Do you know what the most important aspect of a healthy marriage is? We believe it’s communication. Learn how to talk, listen and respond in a God-glorifying way and your marriage is sure to not only survive, but thrive. We … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication
Tagged Communication Skills, Gary Thomas, Strong Marriage
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In To Me See – An Invitation Reserved For One
“In to me see” is a term our pastor coined for intimacy. If done right we are inviting our spouse to see into our lives in a way no one else does. It is for their eyes, ears and heart … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Intimacy
Tagged Intimacy in Marriage, Into-Me-See
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Overlook Ahead
Have you ever thought about overlooking an offense instead of plunging, head-first into an argument? Consider these scenarios…You spent a lot of time explaining something vey important to your spouse. Then, you realize they weren’t listening to you. You’ve asked … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Avoiding Conflict, Offense, Overlook
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Attributes of a Healthy Marriage – Friendship
This one may seem like a given, but it isn’t. We have encountered far too many couples who after years of marriage have nothing in common. This is a dangerous place to be. We become vulnerable to the wiles of … Continue reading
Honestly, Honesty is Hard
The title says it all. In our last post we shared that honesty was an attribute of a healthy marriage. We received lots of comments about how difficult this is to do. Billy Joel sings it well… If you search … Continue reading
Posted in Besetting Sins, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Temptation, The Gospel & Marriage
Tagged Honesty, Honesty in marriage, Honesty is Hard
Keeping The Home Fires Burning
Tom was two badges shy of becoming an Eagle Scout when he quit, a choice he regrets to this day, yet what he learned during his Boy Scout training is so valuable. I have benefited from his knowledge and skill … Continue reading
Old Age Fresh Love
“Come grow old with me. The best is yet to be” is a quote lovers use often to express their devotion. However, when old age is knocking on the door it doesn’t seem to have the same romantic appeal. It is … Continue reading
Posted in Aging, Christian Marriage, communication, Death and Grieving, Seasons of Life
“You Are So Beautiful To Me”
Wives, how many of you have heard your husband say this to you? I would imagine most of us would say we have, but do you believe him? Or do you find yourself arguing or rejecting his compliments? You may … Continue reading
Keeping It Real This Christmas–Can You Relate?
My house is a mess. I am decorating for Christmas, but there are demands keeping me from finishing it all at once. Oh sure, I’ve posted photos on Instagram zoomed in where it appears my home is picture perfect, but it’s not. It … Continue reading
Uncovering 5 Practices Detrimental To Marriage: The Final Two
The last two practices you may or may not realize you’re doing. This is why we want to shine the light on these two together. It happens when we listen to our spouse either with our mind made up based … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Difficulty, Growing Strong Marriages
Tagged Assumption, Detriments to Marriage, Disregard
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Uncovering 5 Practices Detrimental To Marriage: Critical Judgments
You begin to share with your spouse about something that is really bothering you. Right as you are pouring your heart out to them, they ask a question about something else, revealing that they haven’t heard a word you’ve said. … Continue reading
Uncovering 5 Practices Detrimental To Marriage: The Question Behind The Question
Stop signs are there for our protection and the safety of those around us. They help us know when to stop, think, observe, then proceed with caution. Can you imagine a world without STOP signs? Where everyone can proceed full-speed-ahead … Continue reading
