A Fragrant Aroma – Face to Face

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Did you ever have a pen pal when you were little?  They were usually assigned to you through some sort of organization like Girl Scouts or through the church.  The idea was to write to this person in order to get to know someone who lives far away.  The internet has taken away the need for writing letters to pen pals.  We can converse in real time with people we have never met.  They can live on the other side of the world, yet be as close as our computer screen.  Amazing!

On Labor Day we had the opportunity to meet a couple we highly respect, but have never really met.  They blog.  We blog.  But they’ve been blogging a lot longer than we have.  In fact, they said when they started no one even knew what a blog was.  Yeah, that was a long time ago – ten years to be exact.

Meet Paul and Lori Byerly.

You may know them more by their blog names: The Generous Husband and The Generous Wife.  Together they also run The Marriage Bed website.

They were in Jacksonville for a conference and decided to take a side trip to Orlando in order to meet us.  🙂 We are so glad they did.  From the moment they walked up to our front door, we were instant friends.  Actually, we became friends over a year ago.  Now we were becoming friends face to face.

We shared  our stories how and where we grew up, how we were saved, how we met each other and how the Lord led us each to start our blogs.  We talked about what we are currently reading and who our favorite authors are.  Lori’s is C.S. Lewis and Paul agreed with her choice.  Tom’s is Paul Tripp and mine is Andrew Murray.  It was non-stop conversation, inspiration and just plain fun.

The internet is a wonderful tool, but there is nothing that can take the place of meeting someone face to face.  We have a feeling this won’t be the last time we meet up, even though they live in the Pacific Northwest.

What I learned most from our time together is how real they are.  They write the way they talk.  They are genuinely in love with one another and express generosity, not only to each other, but to us as well.  They encouraged us and even tried to help us figure out some things on the computer.  My favorite part was hearing Paul say,

“Tom, you are a man who knows and loves your wife well.  Seriously, I don’t think there are many men who have taken the challenge to study their wife as well as you have.  You are exactly how I thought you would be based on how your wife has described you on The Romantic Vineyard.”


I loved watching Tom’s face as Paul commended him.  He didn’t expect it, but Paul’s words were so true.  One recommendation he made was for Tom to write more on our blog.  He said, “Husbands need to hear from you and learn from you, and discover how you do what you do.”

So, we’re going to pray about how we can make this happen.  Tom is very involved with the direction we take and the topics we choose, but as for the daily writing it is mostly me.  He is busy with his job, and travels quite a bit, but we have an idea that might make this easier than we thought at first.  We’ll let you know…

When was the last time you met a new couple face to face and shared your stories – how you met and fell in love?

About Debi Walter

Tom and Debi have been sharing encouragements through their blogs for many years. Marriage, Reading God's Word and documenting family history is our focus. Growing in our relationship with the Lord is primary in all we say, write or do. We are grateful for all who desire to join us in the same endeavors.
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6 Responses to A Fragrant Aroma – Face to Face

  1. It’s been a while. I remember when we first met Paul & Paula (who could forget this gregarious, engaging couple). This was about 15 years ago. We had never before shared stories like we did with them. Thanks for the reminder. It makes me smile. And, yes, we love to hear from Tom. His last post about Pick up on Aisle 4 was great.


  2. Melinda says:

    What a great post. I haven’t met a new couple in a while. I tend to meet just the Moms with their kids — my stage of life I guess. The youth ministry I volunteer for (www.cycop.org) just had “Face to Face as our theme, though, and talked a lot about how being “in person” with someone is much better than other method of contact — though technology can be helpful! I’ll share your post with them via Facebook.


  3. Debi – and Tom –

    Thanks for the kind words! It was a joy getting to know the two of you, and to spend time with others who have a passion for marriage. Your church is blessed to have you, and I’m glad what you do it getting to a larger audience.


    • Debi Walter says:

      Thank you, Paul! We pray you have a great weekend sharing what God has given you with those who need to hear it.
      Tom and Debi


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