Ordinary Days

This post was originally posted in April of 2010. I happened upon it last night as I was looking for something else. What affected me is we’re in a season where life is NOT ordinary. It has been a challenge to keep up with the demands of life since the beginning of the year. And the worst part? As the year progresses it seems to be getting busier. I have been longing for an ordinary day. How about you? How do you handle those not-so-ordinary days? How is your marriage affected – for better? or for worse?


I love ordinary days.

Days when the first thing I hear is the whirring of the coffee grinder as Tom brews a fresh pot of aromatic energy – just for him.  He prefers his coffee strong and black.

Days when I steep hot tea in my favorite Starbucks mug  – PG Tips to be exact – with a bit of sugar and cream; pure comfort in a cup!

From there Tom finds his place at the kitchen counter.  I settle in on the sofa, and we commune with the Lord – reading His word, reading a book together and/or by journaling.   There is a rhythm to our mornings that seems ordinary, but in reality they are far from it.  The fact is that after 31 years [now 33] having found such a rhythm to our days is nothing short of a miracle.  We enjoy being together as we seek the Lord.  We enjoy communing with the Author of our faith…our love…our lives. Because He first loved us, we are learning to enjoy the security His love brings to us individually and as a couple.

We have learned that such ordinary days are what make life extraordinary.

Predictable, everyday routines are like foundations that support us on the days that are not so routine.  God gives us Himself on the ordinary days so we might give of ourselves sacrificially to His will when things aren’t going as planned.

He is always there when our feet first touch the floor in the early morning light, and as we reach to turn off the lamp before kissing goodnight.  He is the reason we have any days at all, the ordinary as well as the not-so-ordinary.

How do you spend your ordinary days?

About Debi Walter

Face it, marriage is hard work. But when cultivated daily the fruit produced will satisfy for a lifetime. We're here to help with ideas and encouragement along the way. Having been married 40 years and counting, we share what we've learned with practical tips, Biblical Truths, Date night ideas to help you plow your own vineyard for God's glory.
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5 Responses to Ordinary Days

  1. Nate Martin says:

    Reblogged this on FCOG Marriage Ministry and commented:
    Found this to be a neat read going along with the discussion question from last week’s Marriage class about traditions you and your spouse have or can begin to make your marriage stronger.


    • Debi Walter says:

      Welcome to our Vineyard Nate. And welcome to the marriage blog world. We’re glad to have you. If there’s anything we can do to help, let us know. We congratulate you on encouraging the couples in your church to grow their marriages for God’s glory.
      Tom and Debi


  2. Great (re)post Debi. I needed that. A good coach will tell you that creating “systems” is the secret to building an extraordinary life. The power of creating “ordinary days” is in the system. And beginning each day with God – together as a couple – is the best engine to any system. It’s time for me to re-tune my system.


    • Debi Walter says:

      Thanks, Robert. It’s good to hear from you! We have found that our system is always in need of tweaking! As long as we realize this, we’re doing good. But when we think all is well, this is when our system is just starting to drift.


  3. Sharon O says:

    It will be different when we actually retire in a few years. (three to five am I counting down? yes) With our schedule it is hard to find a ‘routine’ hubby is up early and out the door, saturdays he has coffee with his dad while I sleep in. Sunday is church day. Mondays he has off but I do daycare.
    I think we need to create a new ordinary. Perhaps that can be something to work on in this new year. Finding a place ‘or time’ just for us.


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