Just saying the word sounds rude – like you’re interrupting someone without saying “excuse me”.
Rude behavior can be as simple as belting out a loud burp or forgetting to open the door, as demeaning as speaking harshly, or as disrespectful as rolling our eyes when our spouse does something we don’t like or doesn’t do something we want them to.
Face it. We all have moments of temptation to be rude, but we don’t have to choose to be so. We can instead “put on love”. How? By thinking and deciding before the heat is on, when the way is clear and uncluttered by our selfishness; by praying to the Lord for help in our weakness, and then…believe He will help us.
Rude behavior is the outflow of a selfish heart.
Consider the times when you’re most tempted to react rudely:
- when your spouse calls saying they’ll be late requiring you to put the kids to bed alone – again!
- when your spouse falls asleep on the couch infringing on your plans and/or desires.
- when your spouse fails to do the one thing you asked them to do for you and you have to do it yourself!
- when your spouse isn’t telling the story the way you would, so you interrupt.
- fill in the blank….
1 Corinthians 13 is not a hard chapter to understand, yet why do we so often fail to truly love in this way? If we knew the answer to this simple question we wouldn’t need God. He wants us to cry out to Him for help in turning our selfishness into charity; our rude behavior into kindness.
So let’s practice loving our spouse by resisting the temptation to be rude, crying out to the Lord for help in our weakness and watching Him change us for His glory!