The distance between a conflict and resolution is an indicator of the maturity of your marriage. Work on shortening this distance, and you will be on the road to growing your marriage in the right direction.
How do you do this? By praying first and then being willing to humble yourself for the good of your marriage. Usually both partners are at fault to some degree and one person has to go first. Why not let it be you? Be the one who stands for what really matters. It will make a difference!