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Category Archives: Conflict
Getting To Know You
A famous song is our post title for today. We did a parody of it at our church a few years ago for a ladies retreat that focused on the seasons of life. This song is one of my favorites … Continue reading
If Your Sheets Could Talk
Yesterday we talked about the challenges all couples face when it comes to money. If resolve isn’t found, it can be the final death blow to a struggling marriage. There is another challenging area in marriage often cited as the … Continue reading
Do You Struggle With This In Your Marriage?
Today is Tax Day in America. It is the day we all must pay our dues to the government whether we like it or not. If they have taken too much from us during the year, it is a time … Continue reading
If My Spouse Would Just…
Photo by Priscilla Du Perez on Unsplash How would you finish this title? “If my spouse would just…” If you have an immediate answer that involves something they need to do to change, it’s likely you have some unresolved conflict … Continue reading
Tale of Two Conversations – The Choice Is Yours
Conversation #1 – Something was weighing on my mind. It was concerning something in our marriage, and I had been dwelling on it long enough to make me discouraged. It grew larger in my thoughts as each day passed. I … Continue reading
Cut Off The Fuel That Feeds The Fire
Always be kind. That’s what our parents taught us growing up. “Kindness begets kindness,” they would say. But in the heat of the moment many forget to put their kindness on display. I remember my husband telling me about an … Continue reading
The Necessity Of Light
We have two three-way lamps in our bedroom on either side of our bed. Each light setting provides a different purpose. If I just want to make our room look nice and inviting, I’ll put it on the lower light. … Continue reading
What We Didn’t Know Going In To Our Marriage
When we said our marriage vows we had no idea of what lay ahead of us. We didn’t know… In our first year we would move to the one city neither of us wanted to live. I would face health … Continue reading
Step Up To Greatness
President George H.W. Bush has been honored well in his death by family, friends and even foes. I’m grateful that we, as Americans, haven’t lost our dignity in showing honor to whom honor is due. It has been refreshing to … Continue reading
Are You Hunkered Down?
We have been watching the weather forecast for Northwestern North Carolina. They are predicting a huge winter storm to hit the area this weekend. We have friends who are taking their family to our cabin for a week, and they … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Conflict t in Marriage, Healthy Marriage, Hunkered Down, marriage, Winter Storms
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Here Comes The Judge
Our pastor preached on Romans 8 this past Sunday. It was a good reminder of the freedom we have in Christ, and an encouragement to no longer live in condemnation. He said something at the end though, that made me … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, Conflict, Keeping It Real
Tagged Condemnation, Conflict in Marriage, Critical Judgments, Romans 8
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A Closer Look at What Bores You
Living life with the same person becomes familiar as it should over time. But when the familiar becomes boring this can be the sign there is something else at play. Jon Bloom wrote an excellent article on the Desiring God … Continue reading
In To Me See – An Invitation Reserved For One
“In to me see” is a term our pastor coined for intimacy. If done right we are inviting our spouse to see into our lives in a way no one else does. It is for their eyes, ears and heart … Continue reading
Posted in Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict, Intimacy
Tagged Intimacy in Marriage, Into-Me-See
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Happy Hour
It’s time to share some of our favorite reads from the past week. Enjoy… Christian Communicators Worldwide 35 Questions for Maturing a Christian Marriage – I happened upon this website with these excellent questions, and each one could lead to … Continue reading
Posted in Blog Love, Christian Marriage, Conflict, Happy Hour, Keeping It Real, Sexual Intimacy
Tagged Blog Love, expectations, Happy Hour, Sex in Marriage
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Overlook Ahead
Have you ever thought about overlooking an offense instead of plunging, head-first into an argument? Consider these scenarios…You spent a lot of time explaining something vey important to your spouse. Then, you realize they weren’t listening to you. You’ve asked … Continue reading
Posted in Biblical Encouragement, Christian Marriage, communication, Conflict
Tagged Avoiding Conflict, Offense, Overlook
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Honestly, Honesty is Hard
The title says it all. In our last post we shared that honesty was an attribute of a healthy marriage. We received lots of comments about how difficult this is to do. Billy Joel sings it well… If you search … Continue reading
Indescribable
Being a native Floridian, I have always loved watching storms roll in from a distance. Our skies are big making it easy to see when a storm is brewing. Hurricanes are the most powerful storms I’ve witnessed, and Irma is … Continue reading
Five Things A Hurricane Is Teaching Me About Marriage
If you didn’t know, we live in Orlando, FL. For days all eyes have been on the forecast track of what has been declared the strongest Atlantic basin hurricane ever produced. Meet Irma! She is strong. She is determined. She … Continue reading
Keeping It Real This Christmas–Can You Relate?
My house is a mess. I am decorating for Christmas, but there are demands keeping me from finishing it all at once. Oh sure, I’ve posted photos on Instagram zoomed in where it appears my home is picture perfect, but it’s not. It … Continue reading
