My Mom’s estate sale was this past weekend. It was another layer of letting go, and it wasn’t easy–not that I thought it would be.
Things are not special. They wear out, rust, decay and break.
But the memory of special times you had together while using a particular thing IS special. And I can’t count the number of things I pulled out of Mom’s house while preparing for the sale that held special memories for me. I could make a long list of those things, but that’s another post–probably for my author blog.
Today I want to share the 10 things I’ve learned since December 15th, and how to help other couples prepare for the inevitable.
Here they are in no particular order:
- Make a will. This is especially important if you have children. If something were to happen to both of you, your children would become a ward of the state until guardianship could be established. Can you imagine how that would affect your children after losing both mother and father? The best way to have peace of mind in this regard is to just do it.
- Label all your necessary keys and throw away those that are no longer in use.
- Things with special meaning should have notes attached to them or be listed in a place where your family can find them. I found a few things where Mom had written a note on the bottom or back telling us who it belonged to. Had she not done this we would have most likely thrown the item away. Instead it holds a place of honor.
- Do regular clean-outs of your drawers and closets and get rid of things that are broken or worn-out.
- As you age give your special things to your family members while you’re still alive. It has such a happier meaning for them when they can remember when it was that you gave it to them along with why you wanted them to have it. Rather than it being handed to them after your death.
- Make a legacy drawer complete with all your important papers and the location of all lock-boxes and bank accounts.
- Make a list of all your current internet connections and passwords and keep it in your lock-box. Make sure you update it often for changes.
- Say “I love you” every time you depart. You never know when it may be your last.
- Be sure your salvation is in Christ alone. There is no greater hope than knowing death doesn’t have the final say. I will see my Mom again, and this fact causes me great comfort.
- Live each day with eternity in view. Most of us don’t like to think about things that make us sad, but doing this one thing will help us remember what really matters…and it’s not things!
How many things on this list have you done? Are you willing to do what it takes to prepare for the inevitable for the sake of your loved ones? It will speak your love to them in a way nothing else will.