I have the privilege of writing monthly for Dustin Reichman’s blog, Engaged Marriage, on the topic of romance in marriage. This month’s post talks about how romance acts like a safety net when facing difficult times….
Cultivating romance into your marriage on a regular basis helps you stay connected heart-to-heart when you don’t see eye-to-eye.
Every marriage goes through seasons of conflict, and it’s usually quite intense when it happens. Things can be going along really well and your spouse says something that doesn’t sit right in your mind.
So, you ask a question that leads to more tension because either the question isn’t heard clearly or it isn’t understood.
So, the answer isn’t at all what you wanted to hear, which leads to more tension and more conflict. It’s a downward spiral that’s hard to correct once it begins.
Smart couples choose to go to their separate corners when tensions mount in order to think and pray before continuing the conversation.
This is a good idea, especially if you’re prone to fits of anger. Giving yourself time and distance allows the Lord to help you think with wisdom, instead of reacting with foolishness.
What does this have to do with romance?
A couple who never takes the time to romance each other when things are going well, are going to have a harder time believing the best about their spouse when things are hard.
Romance acts like a safety net when you’re balancing on the high wire of conflict.
You know it’s a dangerous place to be, but the romance you’ve enjoyed together insures that you’ll make it through safely and together.
Romance gives you a tangible reminder of why the relationship is worth fighting for. It helps you remember the good times when the bad times are screaming at you. Continue reading…