We’ve been to Alaska, Europe, Napa Valley, Quebec City and Bermuda together just to name a few. We have history together, but the trips themselves are not what make our friendship special. It’s the conversations that spring up over a bonfire, or the quick observation made about how Tom and I interact when discussing any number of issues. It’s being known so well that they recognize when we’re struggling. It’s being able to laugh at our mistakes and not taking offense. It’s being able to cry and laugh without explaining why.
The thing is all marriages need such relationships. It helps to have someone who can help you see unhealthy patterns before they cause lasting damage. To have someone that says, “Can we talk?”
Do you have such friends? If you don’t, Tom always says you have to be the one who pursues them. You never know when that couple you’re reaching out to on Sunday will become the friend you can’t live without in 20 years.
This post got interrupted with one of those conversations that does your soul and your marriage good. We pray that you’ll seek out such friends. It makes the journey called marriage so much better!